One Beautiful Day Bonding

It is Monday at 7pm! It feels like Sunday since it was a three day weekend. Which I love and it is awesome to have the whole Fambam together, however it messes with my weekly schedule! It was beautiful day today here in Western Washington! So beautiful that, this whole weekend that we spent pretty much all day yesterday and all day today as a family outside cleaning up the yard and getting it ready for spring. We usually are already into baseball season by the time the weather is good for doing what we did today so it is a nice bonus to get going. We are going to have a good yard again this year!

It is about 2 weeks in the countdown until I go back to work two days a week. My "boss" has already offered to pay for a spot in the B & I to help me get a practice up and going and I am ready! However, I have a long list of projects that need to get done here around the house before the beginning of March. I should make a list... I need to clear clutter off my dresser in the master bedroom, clean the end of the hope chest out at the end of the hallway and figure out a better flow for that area, organize my baking cabinet and the kids craft stuff, and organize the linen closet... I will get this done and be ready with a clean organized house to go back to work. Then when I start working I will utilize every day I am off to be productive, and still have time for our girls lunch on Friday afternoons!  ...a girl can dream right? Problem being I like to chill on the couch and procrastinate, I won't have that time to do so once I start back to work.So I will need to make every effort to be on task like every good mom does...haha right?

We got a good start today, I feel ready to go for the week. The family had some good family bonding time, over arguing who picked up more leaves and filling 14 55 gallon bags full of yard waste! What, not every family bonds this way? I should keep up on the house and yard work so we have more time together as a family. Wait...if I did that when would we get time to bond?! The Girl would be too busy painting her nails, The Boy would be playing video games and The Hubs would be schooling the Boy on the new Forza and I would be doing dishes and folding clothes....so yea I would prefer to argue over who picked up more pine cones... I am looking forward to the next day we all spend all day in the yard! I love those times! A family outing for just because would be fun too. No, I am not talking about a baseball game or dance performance or a trip to Seattle for mommy to do a run. A day to just go play as a family.... but yeah, we are busy and driven and our family thrives on those moments of busy-ness and we love every second so we will enjoy them as they come and just sit and dream about just going out just for fun... in the words of Matisuahu "One Day" (that is the song the Girl's dance team competes in the Lyrical division).

I love my life!  I love my family! I love my husband! I love my kids! I love my blog! Have a great week everyone! Happy Monday!

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Back To Work In A Month

So I am struggling today. Yesterday if you read past the end of my post in the "PS" section I revealed I am going back to work in the office I left almost a year ago, they are excited about that and so am I! I am a Massage Therapist and can't wait to getting back to doing what I love and what I am good at twice a week! However, every experiment of me going back to work since I have had kids, has ended in realizing my family needs me at home so I go back home to be a stay at home full time mom. Usually starts with or involves my house being less clean and organized, me feeling mom guilt by not being able to be at the kids and hubs beck and call and just plain blah don't have me time, I don't have family time and I don't have cleaning time. Which is why almost a year ago I decided I needed to be at home. I have missed my work. I miss seeing clients and knowing that I have made their day better. I miss knowing what I am doing and how to fix the problem in front of me and not having to fight with myself to accomplish tasks. When I do massage I am an expert! I have a lot of experience and training and I have even taught massage.

So since it will be less than a month when I go back to work, only two days a week and only during the hours that the kids are at school, I feel the need to get the house super clean and organized. It is a big fucking overwhelming task! All I can do is sit back and be irritated that I have so much to do and I don't know where to start. I want someone to come rescue me, the way my mom used to come rescue me when I would forget something at home she always brought it to school for me. I know I just have to do it, so why is it so hard for me to just do it?! Come on seriously Ruby WTF?!  I probably sound like an annoying whiner, especially to you moms who are already working and doing everything! Or to you men who get up and go to work everyday only to come home to a wife who has been home all day and you think we doing nothing. I hate myself feeling the way I feel right now. I hate myself for writing about it and not just doing it too! 

I want so badly to help my family in so many ways. So why don't I? I want to fix everything that is wrong or hard in this family. I want to make a little more money to help to take pressure off the hubs so he can be able to do whatever he wants for us and not have to worry about how the bills will get paid after. That financial freedom we had before we had kids and both of us had well paying full time jobs. I want to organize this house and cook food for the family so that we are all healthy. I want to be able to hug and love and take all the bad stuff away. So why is it so fucking hard for me to just put clothes away? The hubs works his ass off for us at work. At work he is the one who goes in and rescues all the problems he is an expert at his job. He is the one they call to fix the tough problems I am sure it is stressful for him to get all the hard stuff to do. So when I struggle actually getting my measly tasks done around the house I can understand why he is frustrated because he has struggled getting all the hard stuff done at his job. I am so frustrated. 

I love writing about it, why cant I just harness this energy and get the shit done? I am a great complainer. I love planning things and making lists I am good at the planning! I have a good vision of what I want and need to do. I suck at time management and breaking down the tasks so they are manageable and struggle focusing and follow through. I want my house organized and perfectly running smoothly, why wouldn't I want to just fold the clothes and wash the dishes. Why do I avoid those tasks?

Am I the only one that does this? I struggle letting my husband know I appreciate him. I know he wants a clean house and organized place to come home to but he has a forgetful wife who gets caught up in the moment and forgets things like to put the preplanned out meal in the crock pot and then has to get dinner ready all frazzled. I had great intentions but one misstep and the whole thing is fucked! Why and how I do I do this to myself. Why is it so hard? What makes me think I can go back to work a few days and week and do this with two less days a week when I can't do it without working?! Obviously, being a stay at home mom has not been the magic answer. I really hate myself on some days...many days. Go clean the bathtub that's what you need to do, organize your closet and put the clothes away and then vacuum. There now you are worthy! What The FUCK?! This is what goes on in my head!

Logically I know that I am worthy of love and everything that I get from my husband and the world. However, most times I feel that I am not, so what do I do to make up for that. Many times that means overly explaining and justifying my opinion to people like a grocery store cashier who I do not owe an explanation for anything to! Or it means trading sexual favors so the hubs can have a release and forget that the house is a bit chaotic. Or it means making the Girl dinner before she goes to dance and then eating mine cold after I get back. I can't make up for not being perfect for everyone. All I can do is be me and do me as best as I can. Honestly, am I alone in feeling like I don't know who or what the real me is? Am I as worthy of love as my house is clean? Am I as good as I am organized? or am I as frail as I am frazzled? I love my family, I love being a stay at home mom but I can't focus on the house and my duties to save my life...well maybe to save my life. I can clean like no ones business if I am pissed! When the hubs and I get in arguments I clean, drives him crazy but helps me not explode and blow up and scream at him we haven't argued like that in a long time...maybe because when we fight it is because the house is not clean and his anxiety about the craziness creeps up on him and my defensiveness creeps up on me and my frustration with my time management issues bother me as much as they do him...

Anyway this blog is brought up because I have a lot of shit to do and need to get to it so I will stop sulking and bitching and go do it! I will do this! I will make sure I learn to love myself even with dirty dished in the sink. I will put those plans into action one of these days but today I will just go do!

Or I will say Fuck It and it will be a sexual favors for the hubs kind of night! ;)  Either way I will love myself and my negativity will go away. I will love me and not with food or drink just love me! I am going to go get my Essential Oils Brain Power and En-R-Gee! Let's do this! Go Ruby!

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Smells Like Procrastination

It is Super Bowl Blue Friday! It is the day before the day before The Super Bowl! My kids are decked out in their Blue Friday garb and we in the family are all in! I am so excited! I am also nervous but the nerves are getting overtaken with excitement. Which makes me scared! All the games I am nervous at we win.

It's time for the grind to payoff for the Seahawks.  For me it's time to grind too. Does anyone else do this on Fridays, you feel like it is time to grind out and clean the house. (Not that it ever gets done though.) I want to get in a get it spotless so that the Hubs can come home and be relaxed walking into a nice clean house, pretty wife quiet kids playing happily together...oh wait, I think that is an episode of Leave It To Beaver... But really I do want that to happen. Unfortunately I didn't get the house wife gene. I didn't get the drive to get up and clean, I got the drive to write about how inadequate I feel because I didn't get that gene. I got the gene to create fun and cute homemade and hand decorated cakes for birthdays and parties. I got the gene that says Fridays are for putting your feet up and going to lunch with your girlfriends. Basically got the gene that most of the time looks like sounds like and smells like procrastination. I am not proud of that but I do think that even with my procrastination gene I am a valuable member of this family and have a lot to contribute to this world. But I feel like it makes me less of a good mom, less of a good wife and not a role model worthy of writing a blog about Sex Love and Washing Clothes.

With that being said, I do write a blog titled Sex Love and Washing Clothes. I don't know how to write code or how to even get followers of my blog other than posting on Facebook and other social media outlets that my current real life friends read and laugh at and I am sure some have unfriended me and don't follow because I use words like Fuck It and talk about having sex with my husband as a way to make up for my inadequacies when it comes to house cleaning and procrastinating! I also write about having sex with my husband because it is fun. Maybe I write so that jaws will drop and the innocent straight laced good girl you once knew has sex and likes it, a lot! And we all know how mundane house keeping can be. With kids from the time when they are in diapers to preteens/tweens (what is the proper word for 9 and 10 now I am just too old to know) each milestone comes with a celebration and a harsh reality that it is a new challenge. Some milestones/stages are more time consuming, labor intensive and less expensive (actually nothing is less expensive things keep getting more expensive) but they are all challenging and we moms will always wonder if we are making the right decision.

Yesterday I shared a photo on Facebook (follow my Facebook page Sex Love and Washing Clothes) was a triangle on each point was one thing: Sanity, Happy kids, Clean House...you probably could say Happy family instead of kids. But it seems true and even sometimes it seems like there is only one option. A mom runs the family and, at least in this family, if I am stressed out that stresses out everyone else. If Hubs is stressed out it stresses me out but I feel like I have to hold it together for him because I do. I think, he has much more reasons to be stressed. After all he is the provider. If anything happened that made it so he couldn't provide he must think about that "what the fuck would my family do if I got hurt or lost my job?" That has got to be a load on his mind, so for me the stress of the kids not being able to go to the cool kids sleepover is not that big of a deal in the "big picture" but being the mom your heart hurts for your kids and you try to do both. Help the hubs and let the kids have their thing and clean your house and stay sane. But in reality, again....you or them cannot have it all!!!! That reality is a hard one to swallow.

Do you ever feel like you must choose who to make happy? That is a harsh way to say it, please don't get offended by this folks. And don't give me the you always have to take your kids side. Strong well grounded adults are grown from kids who don't always get there way and who realize there are sacrifices to be made in life. You cannot always fix things with ice cream and cookies. Sometimes you just have to be sad! Those are the days I choose to drink my water in a pretty wine glass! Even though I would love to fix my sadness with wine or chocolate (see yesterdays post about that) Sometimes I just have to decide somethings gotta give. Everyone has to make those decisions!

How did Super Bowl Blue Friday post digress to this! Here's my correlation, Russell Wilson is a Super Bowl winning Quarter Back in his 3rd year in the league. Many of the players from that winning team last year went late in the draft or were not selected in the draft, even Marshawn Lynch was rejected (sort of) from Buffalo they didn't want him and many people criticized the Seahawks for getting him with his broken leg injury and all. These players had to make sacrifices. It may be easy for all of us normal people, living paycheck to paycheck watching our fun money go to dance classes and sports cleats instead of weekends away with our lovers, to say that it is easy for them to make these sacrifices but bottom line is....they still have to make them. Many of these players spend their whole lives on the VMAC Campus. Watching Films, working out practicing. They sacrifice their family time, their lives for football, a game. Yes their jobs but it is still sacrifice the same way The Hubs sacrifices his time and his life for providing for this family, coaching athletics for The Boy and paying for the Girl (and me) to do dance. It is a choice that I know my husband is proud of, it is not glamorous but one day (he may not know it yet) he will look back and be proud that he did it. Only the toughest get to the Super Bowl. The Seahawks have put in the work. They have not seen their families as much as they could have. I bet many have decided to not start families or have an agreement with their family that time together will come after football. My point is we all have choices to make right now in the thick of it, grinding out every week it may suck but that win, which for us looks much less glamorous . It may be graduation day or may be watching our kids hoist the Lombardi trophy or maybe a less known trophy even a 2nd place Trophy, or get a scholarship or a big Little League win. That is when it will be worth it!

So keep grinding folks. We have Super Bowl moments everyday. I can't tell you how proud I am of my son when he gets a first down, or even just gets to touch the ball, and of my husband when his team "Does it" Whatever "it" may be. Sometimes the win is the First Down, depending on the team and the players. Truth is we don't coach a lot of Superbowl winners at the Pee Wee level but we celebrate their greatness. I sit here with tears in eyes of pride of how my husband in his first football season wrangled a group of 6-7 year olds their first season of tackle football and they actually knew the game! He not only taught those kids how to play and trust each-other he had to teach the parents how to trust him and that came in him doing what he does and trusting himself. The kids knew their roles on the football field he had faith in those kids. He sacrificed his golf night (as he has ever since) and his guy time playing pool with the boys. I probably shouldn't say this and I may get in trouble but I can tell that lately those sacrifices are wearing on him but what does he do....he goes out every season and does it again. I know one day he will sit back and be able to see his grind paid off and those were his Superbowl winning moments. He will not sit back and say "man I miss those golf nights, too bad" as much as he will be proud of the kids he has molded (both ours and those he coaches). He will remember big plays, but mostly I hope he remembers those moments of first time he got guys on his team to see their full potential. I know he will watch with pride as kids he coached first get their letters of acceptance or even sign commitments to colleges and some will scholarship and maybe just maybe he will see one of his athletes make it big! But that is not why he does it. He loves it and is incapable of not teaching these kids to reach their full potential by always doing their best, he does that by he himself putting 100% plus some into it. I am sure it is just like many of the Seahawks, Russell Wilson, Richard Sherman, Earl Thomas and Marshawn Lynch, to name a few, they don't know how not to do their best and put 100% plus some into everything they commit to! So, he will get up and go to work early so he can come home early enough work with the Boy getting ready for try outs, yes he will complain, but he will do it and that makes him a good dad and a good coach.

I will stop taking it personal and I will let him bitch, just like he lets me bitch about not being able to eat as much chocolate as I want. I need a way to learn to communicate that I understand him. Today, I will go clean this house so that he doesn't come home to chaos (well in the form of clutter scattered around the house Chaos is my middle name I think). He has said to me that coming home to a clean house helps to feel less chaotic. I know it is not my responsibility to manage my husbands or anyone else's emotions, but as a mom and wife I am sure you understand how we take all this on, maybe you can't that is just me. I choose to sacrifice my brain function to focus on this messiness and then I get to play (Super Bowl Cake decorating tonight). I will go make my sacrifice today, then later.....maybe a little mini vacation in the bedroom (since a real one is kind of out of the question right now) which will be much nicer to set the mood with less clutter! I am going to take a moment to take care of my husband as I know he is needing it. I appreciate all he does for this family and i know he appreciates my. Dear Hubs, I love you! You have done so much for me and that allows me to be the kind of wife I am for you. You have said I am the best thing that has happened to you and I want you to know I can only be as good as I am because I have you right behind me helping me and supporting me though! I love you with all my heart and I pray that you don't get upset at me for exposing you here today! I am so proud of all you do and I am happy you are on my team!!! ~Love Me.

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#GoHawks

Mom's Seahawks Player Personality

Edit note: I used Stay at Home Mom reference for this but really it can be used synonymously with mom. I believe it is not only relevent to stay at home mom's all moms I believe possess all of these qualities working, part time full time and stay at homers!
Today is Monday of Super Bowl 49 Week. My Seattle Seahawks are competing for the title of Super Bowl 49 Champions! One thing we hear Pete Carroll and the team use a lot is "Always Compete". In football a lot of cliches and metaphors are used. And more are made each day! I am going to take a championship attitude to everything I do this week. It is easy to give a football competition metaphor to another sport but I am going to try to apply it to Sex Love and Washing Clothes this week. I am going to start with the "Washing clothes" in this blog.

My focus today is to get my Master Bedroom done, purge old stuff, reorganize the stuff that stays and make it easily manageable to stay that way. Having a Championship Mindset for this task is going to start with preparation. This task of cleaning, purging and reoraganizing is like practice and weight training and game planning. The cleaning and purging part is the strength training. Repitition that is to strengthen for the purpose of getting stronger and faster. Training in the sport specificity but not specifically playing the actual game or route running or anything. The Reorganizing is game planning and preactice reps. Making sure things have a home and there is easy access to it and it looks good to the eye. Daily living and putting things away when finished using it and not throwing clothes on the floor and keep it up is the game part. The Championship part. To be a Champion here my room will have to stay clean and organized! Everyday for a stay at home mom her game is putting things away dusting off the tops of the shelf and vacuuming up the dirt brought in from the family. 

Let's break down the players (Seahawks) on the field in relation to Stay at Home Moms

A SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) is like the linemen on the field. (Shout out to Max Unger, Justin Britt Russel Okung some of my faves) She does the dirty work so the QB and WR can make an amazing catch and throw and celebrate the touchdown in the Endzone. Meanwhile mom, or lineman in this metaphor, lay on their back recovering from exhaustion as the touchdown dance is celebrated (Dear Linemen, please don't get offended in the metaphor. You know those rough grinding days that the opponents really make you work. I know you condition and work hard and many times are right the in celebration but those rough days, same to you moms you know those days you just want to lay down on the floor in the waiting room for the well child check up, do we always have to be vertical?)

Now SAHMs don't get offended by me calling you a lineman. Let me add some context for you non football SAHMs out there. Lineman protect the Quarterback. They make holes for Lynch and Turbin to run through to score. Without the lineman (the bigs guys who line up kind of squatted in a three point stace over the ball) our skill players (quaterbacks, wide recievers and running backs) could  not excite us with their skills! Linemen grind, I bet they got to work on Sundays knowing they might get their ass kicked that day and/or they will give an ass kicking! The way I know that I will today when I go into my master bedroom but I will not stop until I too give one! Marshawn is going to be scoring and skittle will be flying! And for your defensive linemen type, there will be some blockers on their back and that QB of clutter (my Tom Brady today) will be sacked at lest 4 times today might even tip one of his deflated balls.

Or maybe we stay at home moms are like the LOB, the Legion of Boom. They steal the ball from the hot shot QB of the bad guy team in the form of interceptions and sometimes they even get a pick six (which is where they score a touchdown). Or they strip the ball from the hands of the ball carrier. They deliver the big hit like Kam Chancellor did against Vernon Davis on National TV a couple seasons ago (had to post a link of this hit). Or they tip the ball away from a would we be game winning touchdown like Richard Sherman did in the 2013 NFC Championship game vs Crabtree the infamous Mediocre receiver. Or we are like Earl Thomas who sits back and waits for his oppurtunity to pounce on the offensive player with the ball. Even with a dislocated Shoulder in this years NFC Championship Game he laid a hit on Eddy Lacey to hold him out of the Endzone! (Earl Thomas is my favorite player!) He is so focused so calculated so explosive, so good! Mom's are an important role in families, they protect their family the way the LOB protects the Seahawks Endzone. We Like the LOB, always know when and where to come up with a big hit, pick six, or a strip in the form or a great snack, a fun party game to keep kids from killing each other, running in that library book just in time for your kid to check out a new one and flashing the headlights at the bus driver so your kid doesn't miss the bus, that finishing move with the husband (wink wink) we know how to come up with the big plays when all seems down.

SAHMs also can relate to how Russell Wilson and company run the offense. Well calculated game plan flawless execution. Always ready for what comes next never surprised and when there is something that doesn't work there is no panic. He can rely on the Beast of Marshawn Lynch to run it into the Endzone or use him in a Play Action and get the job done with a QB sneak. Mom's, just like Russel Wilson, know how to use our assets we delegate but are not afraid of keeping it ourselves and running for the first down or into the Endzone for the touchdown. 

There is a mom metaphor to Luke Willson the Tight End as well. He lines up on the line and protects the QB for pass plays but he is also available to run up the seam for the score! I love the Wilson to Willso play it is just so fun to say. We mom's can make the plays like Russell Wilson but can also be versitile like a Tight End needs to be. Sometimes they have the QBs Back in a blocking sceme and others they are the featured receiver, just don't drop the ball and know your route, which all mom's are great at!

We moms also relate to Marshawn Lynch pretty well. He is "All about that Action" as are we. It doesn't matter how it gets done it just needs to get done and if you get in our way especially if you get in our kids way we will stiff arm you, knock you down and then walk into the Endzone that is ours to score the touchdown aka get shit done! But don't ask us how we did it. We don't want to tell you how we got the teacher to see things our way or how we made the right moves to get things just perfect for that birthday party we just did it. Let our body of work speak for itself and get the fuck out of our way! (Next time you wife grabs her crotch as she finishes dinner cleans the kitchen and folds the laundry in time for her favorite show, don't punish her just give her some Skittles)

Maybe we are like the Linebackers Bruce Irvin and KJ Wright they come up big with a sack at the right time. (the Hubs was a line backer too.) The linebacker is like the QB of the defense. Calling in defensive plays making sure everyone is where they need to be (at least that's how the Hubs team is) They also are the ones who get to blitz and sack the opposing QB. The Seahawks LBs are kind of quiet but will let you know who is there when it needs recognizing.

SAHMs are also a little like Micheal Bennett in that we are not afraid to get on a bike and go for a Joyride. But for us that might look like swinging on the swing at the park, yes we know it's for the kids but why not take a moment for some fun when we deserve it!

But realistically we probably fit the best with Pete Carrol...He manages all these personalities. He taught and instilled the Championship mind set in these players. These players love Pete Carrol and it shows has been able to reach the players who have been well off from the time of birth to those rose from the ghettos. He can hang with Marshawn and Russell and have them on the same page. who would have thought or expected that from the 2nd oldest coach in the league? We moms are similar, we can get the dancer and the wrestler working together on chores after school and then get them to their respective practices on time. We know what to feed the Boy before practice to get him to focus and we know that the Girl needs the right water bottle in order to stay hydrated. We know what it takes to make our family Champions and we do it in our own way and will continue our way no matter what the experts say! Stay your course. Pete Carrol has kept the Seahawks schedule the same as he did last year when they won. We mom's take control of our families in the schedules, to feeding, the taxi-ing, the game planning. We do it all we have to have confidence and know our team and make it work for them! This is where we shine, but not really "shine" we don't get a whole lot of the credit but we are the Pete Carols of our family
And we mom's have our days (some more than others) Just like Wide Reciever Jermaine Kearse and "angry Doug Baldwin" did in the NFC Championship game. Jermaine had a few dropped passes, a tip (maybe 2) that resulted in an intercetption. Despite his best efforts he kept coming up short. But he never gave up and Russle never gave up on him. He and Doug Baldwin kept going out the and grinding and working. Doug caught a long pass to give the drive momentum and in the end Jermaine caught the winning touchdown. We mom's have our rough days and dropped balls. We gotta keep on trying  keep grindingand the family has got to keep on trusting and we will win the game for them! Never give up moms! Honestly I don't think we know how (and by we I mean we mom's and The Seahawks)

What is your SAHM player personality? Do you have another suggestion? I would be curious if the players would agree with me and my SAHM metaphors. It was fun writing, hope you like it and get inspired this SuperBowl Week!  Go Hawks!

Send in the troups if you don't hear from me off to tackle the Master Bedroom!!!

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22 Days and Counting

How are your 2015 goals doing? Did you really set out goals for 2015? It is the third week in January, Thursday. We are only 3 weeks into this year that is about 5.7% into 2015. It seems like it has been forever since New Years Day. So much has happened. The Oregon Ducks won the Rose Bowl and a spot in the National Championship and then lost that game. The Seahawks played in and won two play off games including a second in a row NFC Championship Game. The Boy has wrestled in 4 matches won 8 and lost 3 bouts, 4 or 5 of them he has pinned for the win. The girl has finished her competition solo and her costume has arrived it is gorgeous and she is more gorgeous dancing in it. I have had my first ever official migraine (sucked) and I have gone most of these 22 days of January without alcohol and carbs and sugar (I got two waiver days for Playoff games and a few quick bites that no one will ever know). The Hubs starts his apprentice class that he teaches next week and has an instructor meeting tonight. The Hubs and I had a great start and then had our first fight last weekend but are still in a better spot than ever. Our kids have spent a weekend with Grandma Great and one with Gram and Gramps. We have had the Boy's birthday party and sent kids home because he was puking so we will do it again this weekend. The Girl has had the disappointment of stupid 10 year old girls who can only be friends with once person at a time and had her sleepover with her bestie canceled due to her brother being sick. Point is 2015 is in full swing and the "New Year" feeling has faded into the normalness of real life. Right?

So how are we doing? Sex Love and Washing Clothes was, no IS my goal. The Hubs and I have kept up on our part of the sex everyday! I have not exactly kept up the washing clothes everyday, but I have not given up. I love everyday with my whole heart. Even when it doesn't seem like it I am making decisions out of love, love for my family, my cause, school, sport, kids, teachers, husband family etc...even if in reluctance I make every decision for the love of something! It happens about this time maybe sooner, every year the "New Year" feeling fades. The excitement of that "change feeling" wears off, the desire for change fades. Our motivation fades sometimes moment after we see a great inspiring presentation. In the moment of that presentation we were captured with hope and inspiration! Then reality sets in we have to be home to take the kids to practice and make dinner in 20 minutes and you forgot to take out the chicken from the freezer....So we end up falling back into our rut that we intended to get out. That feeling of being in a rut is what gave us the original desire for change, and there we go right back into it!

Yes that is what happens when life gets in the way! Ruts are hard to get out of they are easy to just follow along and get pulled wherever they lead. There have been days this year (in only 22 days) that I have wanted to say "Fuck It" I am throwing in the towel everyday for a whole year is too long! Obviously I kind of have done that with the whole cleaning thing but I have refocused and continue to try to make new strides everyday. But the first word in this blog is not cleaning for a reason. It is sex, and that department we have stayed to the course everyday! I really do love sex with the Hubs and he does too, so that makes it much easier. So it really is not hard, in theory, to keep doing it because obviously sex is fun, but we all know that we want to just go to sleep sometimes especially when tired or sick or have a rib injury (yes, I have an NFC Championship game war wound and just laying down hurts). I have stuck it out because I committed and I want to see what it does if I actually keep a resolution? (Should I use that word?) Has that ever happened? That anyone has kept a resolution?! EVER?! I have 22 days and counting!

Piggy backing on yesterdays post stop letting life get in the way and steal your passion! Stop being a nay sayer and giving in! You can keep the passion and inspiration! You can do it AND get the family fed dinner and get the kids to practice on time! It just takes determination, dedication and desire (and a maybe little planning depending on your goal)! Do you really have desire for change in your life? Routine and ruts are easy, even if you don't like them. If you have been doing it that way for a while you have to go through the change and sometimes it causes what I refer to as growing pains. I have quit so many diets, workout programs and organization projects and even jobs because of said growing pains. But, this year in 2015 I plan to push through! It's kind of like going through hell to get to something better. There is a country song that says "if you're going through hell keep on going. You might get out before the devil even knows your there". So, keep going until you create a new routine that includes the positive changes, it may even be easy one day! At the end of 2014 you set out to accomplish something in 2015 you said that you would do it on New Years Eve! You were inspired by stories of accomplishments of 2014 and probably stories of failures in 2014 so let's do 2015 better. Maybe you were inspired by the Champagne or the Ducks or Ohio States win on New Years Day. Regardless something inspired you hold onto that inspiration don't ever let it go!

Those Chinese lanterns we sent off on New Years Eve, went up and kept going, none of them turned to you and said that is too hard or too much! We had dreams and plans and desire and maybe unrealistic expectations but let's make those reality with the work we put in this WHOLE year!!!! Never give up on those dreams! 2015 is 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days. It has only been 22 days, you still have time you can still get on track don't give up!

#Everday2015

Smile, The Next Best Thing To Do With Your Lips

Happy Tuesday that feels like a Monday! What a crazy weekend. Between the Seahawks winning back to back NFC Championships, the kids and The Hubs having Monday off and me kind of taking the weekend off...I am overwhelmed and spent! I need a weekend from my weekend!

I have like negative 20 minutes left to get a days worth of stuff done so this blog will be short and sweet.  I have been slacking on the "washing clothes" part of my life. (I am writing this as the sink fills to wash dishes that include those left from the Boy's sleepover Friday night). So I am making that a priority today! I am going to refocus and recommit to washing clothes and cleaning house everyday, no more off days or leaving dishes in the sink overnight! The "Love" part is fine. I love my life, Love my Seahawks (Superbowl!!! Whoo Hooo!!!!!!!) And love my kids, getting ready for Sleepover round two this weekend to finish what they started last Friday! And the Hubs and I are set for a date night at Lowe's to pick out cabinets to go in the newly organized Laundry Room. The "sex" part is fine, we had a bit of a hitch (not that we didn't follow through we just had our first real fight (over pretty much nothing) of the year and well we (I) were in a cuddly mood not a two a day mood when we went to bed last night, (good thing for morning sex yesterday and husband who is great at cuddling).

In the midst of my dull-drums today, I sent a "pick me up" photo to the Hubs. Sometimes the thought of him getting my "pick me up photos" (if you don't know those are the kind you can't show your boss or anyone else) makes me giggle and smile a bit, picks me up too. I wonder who is with him?Does he blush or tell his work partners what was in that text message from the Wife? I feel like it was a pick me up for me more than him, sometimes. Him getting my topless photo, as much as I know he likes getting my fun photos at work, picks me up too especially when it is a day where I am getting in the tanning bed because I am feeling overwhelmed and exhausted and I am needing a pick me up, almost as much as it does him. I know it makes him smile, because he tells me sometimes with a fun text back and sometimes when we are sitting on the couch out of the blue just so I know he likes it. I think he knows if I know that he likes it I will do it more. Which, nothing could be more true!

So today folks tell your mate what you like.  What picks you up for the day. Can they help you out maybe when you get in a mood tell your spouse you need a pick me up and they can send your favorite quote or a topless photo or a cute animal pic what ever makes you smile. If you mate knows then they are armed the ability to be there even in the virtual world to make you smile! Because we all know the smiling is the second best thing to do with your lips!

#Everyday2015

Feeling Behind

So it's 11:11 (when I started and sat down) this is Thursday morning and I feel behind. My kitchen is half way torn apart, I was at The Boy's 3rd grade field trip this morning, I walked to the school and while I walked there I wrote the first half of today's blog (yes I was that dumb look girl walking and texting at the same time.) and then I pushed the wrong button and didn't save it so I lost the whole paragraph or so that I had written.  I thought is was pretty clever for feeling rushed and writing while walking. I am behind today.  I love writing but I am behind today although I did get a walk in to the school and from the school and during the field trip.

I have had sex everyday of 2015. I think this may be the first time that I have made it through the whole first week of the year doing something everyday.  I take Thyroid meds everyday and I haven't even taken them every day this month/year (I always forget the weekends). I am very proud of myself for that! I will continue this, I am so excited. Another thing that I have accomplished everyday is write to this blog, everyday. I have also followed my diet of no carbs and Dry January is still in tact (although I am considering a cheat day on Saturday, it is a Seahawks play off game day because I just don't know if I can break the flow of what we have been doing. When it comes to Seahawks you don't mess with fan flow, the 12s have their way. This may be an excuse to cheat I am considering that and will make a wise decision) We have this rule, don't change anything! But I will still be Sex Love and Washing Clothes but Dry January may have a waiver for Play Off Games. And now it is confession time, I have not actually washed clothes everyday. I have done something with laundry everyday be it start laundry, transfer laundry to dryer (although the Hub's work unies did not get started..ugh, I forgot to push the start button) but not completely the washing, drying, and putting away, everyday. Although, I have done some "Washing Clothes" stuff in the phenomena that is "washing clothes" encompasses everything house related.  My house has had attention everyday. 

I have worked at this everyday, I have not watched as much HGTV as I usually do and my Facebook friends must feel lonely without me being on there to give my opinion and share their Facebook lives with them as much as before, maybe they don't miss me because they are reading this blog that I post on my page everyday. I really am proud of myself and enjoying this routine.  However, routine is hard when you are a mom no when you are me. I am sure some of you can relate. I don't have control over my schedule as much as I would like to or thought I would have. It would be nice to plan your day at 6:00 you get up at 7:00 you eat Breakfast and are out the door by 7:30 get on the bus and start work at your desk at 9:00 then off work by 5:00 home at 5:30 gym at 6:00ect..... not me, some days the Hubs leaves at 6:00 some days at 5:30 and the kids get up at 6:30. I get the kids up and then when they go to school I write then get on with my day.

However, Some days I have field trips to go to. I would like to schedule my day with an hour to workout, and hour to write before the kids get up after the Hubs leaves but I like laying in bed with the Hubs until he gets in the shower. On days he goes in later I get extra cuddle time. I get up when he gets in the shower, I usually make breakfast and pack lunch for him. When I send him off is when I sit down and eat my breakfast, drink coffee and have a little me time, (sometimes we talk on the phone while he drives in to work) that is actually when I was doing my writing before school started back up. But because I don't get that hour or so free time because this week the Hubs has been leaving at the time I need to be getting the kids up, my writing is getting done after the kids go to school, then I clean or head to my appointments for the day or what ever is on the agenda. My point is that my life doesn't have a regular schedule, it is constantly changing. If it did this Sex Love and Washing Clothes, and getting in my workout and everything else done would be easier. I am the type of person that needs a schedule to stay focused and committed but I have done it without, this is a big deal for me. For that I am proud of myself, and it is teaching me that I can do things that I set my mind to. I will finish this year of Sex Love and Washing Clothes by taking it one day at a time. I bet I will lose weight and have a great year of sex under my belt.

Yes, I could get up at 4:30am and have that time to workout and write before the kids get up but I would miss the extra morning cuddles. I may even cheat and not get up and I would miss out on very much needed rest. The Hubs and I go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time everyday (it varies on weekends sometimes he sleeps in and sometimes I sleep in on Fridays). The reason I do this instead of getting up by myself to have time to workout or meditate on my own or whatever I would want is partly because I am tired, partly because I am lazy and want to rest more, mostly because I like to start and end my day with the Hubs. This is a big part of connection for the two of us. When he is on odd schedules (which rarely happens but sometimes does) it is a major struggle. But I feel that this is a big piece that help us stay connected! It is hard to have sex with someone who goes to bed an hour or more later than you.  It is hard to have morning sex (quickie or not) with someone who gets up an hour or two after you. 

If I can give couples one tip to being connected is sleep at the same time, be in bed at the same time, the whole time, go to bed at night at the same time, or at least get up at the same time. If you can't, because of shift work or something, try to be in bed together for at least a few moments. Make an agreement that it's okay for one partner to wake the other partner up, either when they come to bed or get up for their morning to have some connection time in the bed and hopefully sex! ....oops that sounded like advice, sorry. :)

I will continue as I have been, I will do more laundry but remember "Washing Clothes" is a synonym for house work in this blog and I will do it everyday.  Sex will continue everyday, (which is so not hard to do, although, last night we were both tired but for Sex Love and Washing Clothes, we turned on the charm, turned on each other and voila "O").  Keep up the Sex Love and Washing Clothes and think about going to bed with your mate tonight and take advantage of that connection and hey try sleeping naked that helps too, ooh that may another topic to be brought up later!

#Everyday2015

Breaking Out of Comfort Zones

Happy Monday! I had a great weekend!  A two a day on Sunday, YAY!

Today is the first day back to normal school year schedule! I have made breakfast and packed lunches for the Hubs and both kiddos.  I vacuumed before I took the kids to school! Then I came home, turned on the computer and purged emails, in one email account.  That took almost an hour OMG. Am I the only one who kind of hoards emails? I am so interested in so many things but don't have time to go check out the newsletter or even read the emails but I keep them to go back to later, and don't always, ok almost never get back to them. I just found the "delete all from this sender" and I can even set it to automatically delete certain emails from each particular sender after 10 days or there are a few other options too. If I don't get to it by then it is not that important, right?  I could also block what I don't want anymore, such and exciting feature without having to go to the website to unsubscribe :) ... I know this may not at all be interesting but for me this was a big deal to accomplish.  I only have two other emails accounts (AH!), I don't think the others are not as bad...yet. 

Next on my agenda today is organizing and purging my kitchen. I joined a 14 week organizational group to help give me direction.  They send me an email each week (one reason I purged my email account, so I don't miss it) that gives me instructions.  This week is Kitchen.  One of the steps is to take everything out of the cabinets and purge, clean the cabinet shelves and reorder things if needed and put them away. This scares me! Taking everything out may be overwhelming, but I am giving it a go.  It is a means to an end as the Hubs said this morning when I texted him about the process.  He knows me and knows I get overwhelmed. I know him and know that coming home to clutter is stressful so I wanted to check in with him weather I should do small amounts to keep up with it each day or if I should jump in with both feet and tackle it, even if the mess is bigger before it gets completed which may not be for a couple days. He said take all the stuff out so I can see everything I have and get rid of doubled up stuff and/or broken or miss matched like Tupperware with no lids.  He said he will understand it is a means to an end.  

Texting the husband was a good thing and a big step because if he came home to a big pile of clutter all over the table he may have a tendency to stress out. Then we may get into an argument which would lead me to make an excuse not to do it so that I wouldn't cause conflict and/or stress him out in the process. He is aware of what I am trying to accomplish so now. So he won't need to stress about why or what is going on, he knows what I am doing and now can support me in the process instead of the obligatory wonder of "what does she do all day". There will be growing pains of the process in the form of a bigger mess, but he is primed to support now and I am excited to accomplish this task! 

Why have I not figured this out before? Or why have I been so afraid to say it out loud.  I guess I just think he should just "know" but how is he supposed to if I don't tell him. It is amazing what honesty and directness and openness will do. It is amazing what doing this blog has done for me and my confidence and my ability to be direct and not shy away from confronting issues. I think this is having an affect on me that I did not expect and it's not just to be more sexual.  It has made my comfort zone bigger.  I am more comfortable with speaking my mind and putting my truth out there! And it is only January 5. It hasn't even been hard confronting these few things the last few days. It has felt natural to speak out and be direct.  I am loving it, I hope he is too. Well, I know that he is enjoying at least parts of it, wink wink. There are just some unexpected exciting things happening on more than a physical level here, and it is amazing!  I am so excited to watch my life change this year! Breaking out of my comfort zone, are you?

#Everyday2015

Saturdays are for being lazy!

Today is the first Saturday of the year. Saturday is usually the day we spend sleeping in being lazy. Last week we didn't get up until almost noon, maybe later since we had no kids in the house (Thanks to Gram and Gramps). So my Sex Love and Washing Clothes promise is that I will not be totally lazy on any day of the year.  It is currently noon-ish and I have made Biscuits and Gravy and a smoothie for a snack for the boy. Most of the dishes are still there and laundry has not started yet... This is normal! Right? I am planning to not be normal for this year of Sex Love and Washing Clothes. As much as it is nice to not have to make up for it on Monday. You know the day after you have done nothing around the house all weekend except make messes, which we all know sucks! I still want to rebel and do nothing!

What really is normal?  I don't know if my normal of doing nothing during the weekends is really normal but I think it is my normal.  And I wonder why I hate Mondays so much...hmm  So here is my plan to get out of this funk; after I finish writing this post, we are doing a family hot tub session and then it will be start clothes in laundry and clean up breakfast mess, make lunch and prep for dinner with Gramma.

I think subconsciously or maybe geniously or both that I chose the charge of Sex, Love and Washing Clothes, since the Sex part is actually fun, exciting and will keep me committed.  I am sure I would have already quit.  So let me review and reveal to you all that I have committed to this 2015 obviously Sex Love and Washing Clothes Bare Neccessities (See previous post of that title) and ALSO (why oh why?) I committed to a dry January, that's right no alcohol, no Grape vodka, wine, no anything!  Also to a low carb/no carb month as well (so that's no chocolate, soda or sweet drinks either)...Yes I obviously am a masochist, who does that?  The only thing that will get me through is the sex! Which I am lucky I really have great sex! I  sent the Hubs a text yesterday that said something like "I really want a drink or chocolate, but at least I have you to look forward to giving me an escape in bed (or maybe not in bed) later!" He responded something like "I love how your body has been looking and I will take care of it" (for the record he has always loved how it looked but he knows what to say to inspire me to not give up! and he always takes care of me) I did it  for my health and weight loss but I am an emotional eater and social drinker...  and a procrastinator so it all hard to follow through with.  Thank you Sex Love and Washing Clothes for the direction and focus and rules and people looking at me to keep me honest.

Please, you all enjoy being lazy all day today and tomorrow because that is what weekends are for.  I will wash clothes and clean for you and for my writing and I know I will enjoy my Monday more!  I will also enjoy sexy loving in place of all of my sacrifice!  So, be sure to know that I will be enjoying and making up for it with my favorite part of this trilogy...the only vice I have left Sex!  I am loving 2015 so far!  

:-)
#Everyday2015

Two-a-Days and Locks

Happy Friday that feels like a Monday. Although many of you may still be enjoying vacation, the Hubs had to go back to work so it feels like Monday here. I hope everyone got to enjoy New Years Day with family and friends.

Today on the Sex Love and Washing Clothes agenda is probably taking down Christmas.  Washing Dark clothes and folding the rest of the clothes that are clean, only about 3 loads, two of which are towels, actually as I look over I see about half a load of towels are folded they got done yesterday morning.  Then, it's Friday which is sure to be a fun time in the sac, okay honestly I am hoping it's not in the sac, I am hoping for sex in my 'favorite spot". The Husband's favorite spot is the same the actions are slightly different, just as enjoyable.  (Maybe in the future I will get into more details but for now I am keeping it PG...well, maybe not PG, PG-13?.....Alright it is already R rated I am just not ready to go into the 50 Shades of Ruby yet so let me warm up a bit and feel this blogging thing out and I will get more detailed....possibly)

Yesterday, I mentioned that it may be the first 'two a day' in 2015. (Which it was BTW, yay me!)  So let me explain a two a day, or actually, define "a day".  This was a heated debate (not in a negative way) one night driving a friend of ours home around 2 am.  My questions was "If we get it on again (since we had already had sex before we went out that night) will it still count as a two a day, since it is 'tomorrow' already?" It was decided that a "day" will be defined as: from when you get up on a particular day in the morning until you go to sleep in your bed at night even if the night ends at 5 am. You are not stuck on the 24 hour calendar clock day.  So technically you could get in a two (or three a day) if you have morning sex Saturday and then go out to a late show Saturday Night and have one last romp when you get home at 1 am Sunday morning. However the 1 am Sunday sex will not count toward two a day Sunday it will count toward Saturday. The 1 am sex was technically (for these purposes) Saturday before you went to sleep.  This is a fun debate the Hubs and I have had and do occasionally change and/or bend the rules slightly. Got it? Good now go get it, twice!

Two a days are fun they tend to happen on weekends when the kids spend the night at grandma's. However, we do not limit ourselves to kidless nights and/or mornings for sex. We have taught our kids to knock before they come into our bedroom. We don't have a lock on our door but we have double doors and tie a a bathrobe tie around the door knobs when we need more "privacy".  It works. The kids have in the past tried to come in and couldn't get the door opened and learned to knock and do not even try the door anymore.  I think as they are getting older (8 and 10) they realize if we have tied the door they know they don't want in. So if I can be educational for a minute, invest in a lock for your door!  Don't let that be an excuse even if it's a bathrobe tie :-)  On a side note, be careful and try not to sleep with the door locked, sometimes in the middle of the night a sleepy child doesn't think to knock and gets confused and/or scared when they can't get in. Take a minute to lock the door when you wake up to go pee (because we all know we have to take that step before a good session of loving).

So go have a two a day or just leave options open for morning sex (that is when the lock comes in handy). Love your kids and love you spouse...and by love your spouse I mean have hot steamy weekend sex behind a locked door :-)

#Everyday2015