Why Does Everything Cost So Much $$$

I am overwhelmed today! I need to get a lot of work done around the house. I am stressing about money and time and schedule and food (gotta get my diet under control so I don't gain all the weight back that I lost in January), basically everything. The Girl, yesterday, won first place overall award at the dance competition she was in (So Proud of her) and that gave her the opportunity to be in Nationals! However we still have to pay for it. They say here you go now you can go to Nationals and you have to pay us for it too! If she wins she earns representation by a talent agency which could get her "jobs" to make money instead of spend money with her talent, however it will be about $1000 just to send her. It is in Anaheim California so she will get to go to Disneyland so of course we have to take the Boy too. So add to it a whole family vacation, which actually would be fun. Cha Ching Cha Ching.

The Girl was even having a hard time being happy about it, knowing that the dance budget is already at it's max, so, she thinks she likely won't be able to go. She is frustrated the same way I am. The Hubs is too, there goes his car we were wanting to buy (his thought) with my going back to work earnings. He loves to be able to provide for us to do everything we want and he does a good job at it. He tends to take a back burner so everyone else can have what they want, he doesn't like to say no to us. I think he thinks that no one notices. Which the kids probably don't, they are kids. I, however, do and I want to make it easy for him to provide for us and try to be careful not to ask for too much, but when he sees that there is something I want or something that the kids could do that they would like or would be good for them he thinks he has to provide that or he wants to provide it! When your daughter is given this kind of opportunity you want to let her, she was hand picked to participate in the nationals competition. Also this year, I wanted to send the Boy to a football camp this summer that cost about $800! GAH!!!!  Why does everything that is a great opportunity for the kids cost so much? How do people do it? This is why many very talented people work in factories or don't live to their full potential. The "rich kids" get the opportunity and the normal kids have to wait to be noticed or wait for So You Think You Can Dance to come to their neck of the woods and get discovered but even then...it's really not realistic. You do hear stories of parents working two jobs to pay for their kids activities. Or even being unemployed and a rich uncle pays for the kids to go to camp or some random sponsor appears and eventually that kid turns into a first round draft pick. The stories always end up on ESPN but, are there stories of families ending up broken, broke or bankrupt and kids who don't appreciate it, parents who get divorced over fighting over the money they are spending on the kids...I don't want to be that story so let's not think about it! I want my unicorns and sparkle ending where my kids gets chosen in the NFL draft and is on ESPN talking about how our family made it through that struggle and it was worth it!

Our kids are awesome with a lot of potential! I want the to feed that potential lead to amazing things, a dance contract, a college scholarship, a job...  You do hear stories of parents working two jobs to pay for their kids activities. Or even being unemployed and a rich uncle pays for the kids to go to camp or some random sponsor appears and eventually that kid turns into a first round draft pick. The stories always end up on ESPN but, I bet there are stories of families ending up broken, broke or even bankrupt and kids who don't appreciate it, parents who get divorced over fighting over the money they are spending on the kids... I don't want to be that story so let's not think about it! I want my unicorns and sparkle ending where my kids gets chosen in the NFL draft and is on ESPN talking about how our family made it through that struggle and it was worth it! 

I know they don't need to do everything that is put in front of them and I know I get hyped up really easily. I get the "this might be a once in a lifetime opportunity we have to act now!" thing that sales people love about me and hate the Hubs. He is better at seeing through their Bullshit but he also is a nay sayer and pessimist and may over look real opportunities with his skepticism. This may very well be a once in a lifetime opportunity for The Girl, her solo is A-MAZE-ING, great choreography she has it nailed (aside form some turns and technique she needs to work on), the judges obviously loved her, she is so strong this year, some years things just click while others there is something missing...  or it may be the first of many years of her getting accolades and awards for her dance... Maybe she will get a big break that will lead to a role in the next dance based Hollywood movie! Or maybe she could just be a kid who goes to school and dances, a lot! Maybe next year will be better and then will we have to do the same stressing about money again etc...??? Does the family need to be put on hold so the dancer can dance? Is it fair to the family to make everyone else wait on what they want so she can have her opportunity? Or can we have it all? Can we find balance and do it all on our salary and with the time we have? Will this hamper the efforts of the boy in his future of sports? Can we do both? Do we have the energy? I hope we can do both, I hope we can have it all....However, I am not so sure if it is possible!

In the last year or two, I have really found my dirty sexy self. He has been enjoying the relaxed sassy sexy hot momma self that I was turning into and so was I, we still are. One day he said if "I get that from you I can deal with financial stress!" "Financial stress is so much easier to manage if I know I have that to come home to." So basically if we have swing from the chandelier sex all the time, he will overlook the financial stresses and be happier, but in reality everyone needs their escape and the reality is that sex only lasts a little while. You have to get up and do real life, which is still hard to do, day in and day out, even with great sex. There is no escape from the necessity of balance! Everyone needs balance! There is also no escape from math or bills, either. My husband works hard and gets paid very well, we have Season tickets for football, we have a very nice retirement that we pay into every month, we have a nice house, camping trailer, we buy quality things, in the words of my Father In Law "we are not standing in the cheese line" but we are not Bill Gates and there are limits to how much money we have. We used to be able to just get up and go to Vegas on a random weekend and now we have to plan and budget for it and we are "living in the moment people" and planning ahead just doesn't happen for a quick trip to Vegas. This is normal for people who go from double income no kids to single income and two kids, right... Not that it happened overnight but it seems to have caught up with us recently maybe just because the kids activities are getting more expensive and we are getting antsy for that getup and go adult only vacation that we haven't planned for but really need and or want, guess I should have thought of that before now!

So that leads me to try to do fundraisers for dance and now even for football camp so we can do it all. Fundraising for a parent only vacation tends to be frown upon (don't judge me who has not looked at a car wash and said I would wash cars for a vacation). I want to provide those things for the kids but time is of the essence. So far the Girl and I have done a few fundraisers and we maybe have brought in $200-$300 (-ish ... I do have it written down but not going to look it up right now) but we have spent more than $200-ish on those fundraisers for the products to create what we have sold. So what can we do that will make money and not cost money. What can we do that will take the time of a full time job and will not be selling trinkets that break but are still low cost enough for people to actually afford and want to purchase but not take so much time and effort to make? Is there anything that will make enough money for the kids to do themselves, they are too young for babysitting or lawn mowing... Suggestions happily accepted!

In the mean time I will work those sexual favors to help the Hubs not feel like he is working just to pay for dance! He is a great provider and I know he wants to make us all happy. If he has to say no maybe he thinks we will think he doesn't love us or doesn't want to do what we ask, but we know someone has to live in reality and when it comes to money that person is him. I know he loves me and I need to realize that he hates to say no and he will do everything to try not to, so I need to remember that when I verbalize what I want and be selective about what I ask for or even when I talk about the things I say "I want". He will try to do it no matter what.

Make sure you and you loved ones know that you love each other even in the times of stress and make sure you understand the "nos' and reasons behind them. Don't be afraid to say no and don't take it personal when the realistic person in the family says it is just not realistic for us to manage to pay for this. It is not personal, stop taking things so personal and just be honest with each other and know that you are in this whole family business thing together. Kids are only little and dependent for a short period of time! We will get our DINK life back soon enough....right ....like when I thought I would be breast feeding or blending food forever this will pass too, right?! In the meantime it is sexual favors and locked doors instead of trips to Vegas and I am OK with that as long as I get to do it with The Hubs. And we will enjoy the accolades the kids get and know there are many trips to Vegas and other destinations in the future of our life! Forever is a long time!!!  I do love my life, I should not complain I have a lot that I am thankful for, there are worse problems that I could have!

#Everyday2015

Love This Hump Day With Your Mouth XXX

Today is hump day! Happy Hump Day! I love hump day! I love saying "happy hump day". I like the little mystery of the word hump.  Hehe, I get kind of giggly like a Jr High Schooler when someone says happy hump day or even when I say it. Because for me, Hump Day means "hump" as in humping, having sex, intercourse or you know my favorite word...Fucking! Yes, everyday is hump day for this girl, now, but before Sex Love and Washing Clothes started the Hubs and I were still, almost daily people, but if we took a day or two off due to being tired or busy or lazy we would usually pick back up on Wednesday because, duh it's hump day, you have to! So for my blog and to keep things exciting, I am going to try to have challenges or suggestions every Hump Day.

This hump day I will start off easy-ish, however I do understand, for some it will be super tough for many different reasons, some simple and some deeper. You may have to figure out how to power through and really work through your issues. Most of us have done this one, and hopefully at least you have experienced it. This is my February 4, 2015 Hump Day Challenge: pleasure your lover with your mouth and then let them return the pleasure! If you are cringing or holding back because of childhood or religious shame issue or you think it's dirty or the taste doesn't suit you or you just can't "do it" ...Power and/or work through it and just do it! There should be no shame in doing what you want with and for your partner in your bedroom. Especially if it feels good and you both enjoy it. Everyone has there likes and dislikes, give it a good honest college try and decide for yourself. Let your inhibitions go, no one is watching (Lock your door) and no one will know. No one is judging, if it feels good, your doing it right. If it is not feeling right, partners, speak up give suggestions or at least let your partner know what is not working. If you are the one giving pleasure and your partner gives you feedback, don't get defensive or take it personal, the goal is for your partner to enjoy what you are doing to them. Communicate, enjoy your partner, feel free to laugh at yourselves when you can't seem to get it, basically, RELAX!

Now when I say pleasure your lover, it does not have to be start to finish. Feel free to work into it. It's called foreplay, start out with a sweet kiss when you first see your lover tonight. Then a longer kiss and really get into that make out session don't be afraid to grope and/or pet (you know heavy petting) your partner. Your kissing and making out will help warm up your jaw and lubricate your mouth so you are ready to go down. When you get there think about as making out with you husband's cock, husbands make out with your wife's pussy...oooh can I say those things? Yes, I can! I just did! And you can do those things too! I like the warm up of a make out because it starts that connection and I love love love to kiss and make out especially when it progresses to more than just a make out session. Oral sex takes you places you may never have been! If you have been there, you know what I am saying, maybe it's just been a while, maybe not just take advantage of this hump day challenge. Oral sex is something that is fun, erotic and sexy and it creates a different kind of connection, both on the emotional and physical level. When my husband pleasures me like this I usually get to the place where I lose all inhibitions around sex. I get dirty and loud and feel sexy and I talk dirty and say things I would not any other time. He loves that sexy part about me, which is probably why he is so giving and lets me experience it so much! Being in that moment of sexual ecstasy you lose those inhibitions it is kind of like being drunk, but it is healthy, does not kill your liver and you could drive after, but who would want to. That is what I am challenging you to do to your lover tonight! Relax enough to lose your inhibitions when it is his turn to please you. If you get really adventurous, you could try going down on each other at the same time. Some refer to it as 69ing (I personally am not a huge fan of 69ing the positioning is hard to get and I like to focus on what I am doing and what is being done to me and I lose the ability to focus when I get to that sweet spot). Whatever you do, relax, enjoy it and let go!

A few tips, I am not a sex expert I am just a wife who has read a few books and articles and got feedback from my husband, don't be afraid to do a google search for help, just go into a private browser so when your kids go on your computer they won't accidentally follow your search.

On the man,

• Be careful with your teeth, relax your jaw, take breaks, use your tongue and lick up and down like a lollipop, it doesn't have to be sucking and all deep throat all the time
• Don't worry about being quiet, feel free to slurp and gag and be sloppy, guys like that sound. 
• Wrap your hand around the shaft and stroke up and down and around. 
• Play with his balls a little he will like that too 

When going down on her,

• Make out with her pussy. 
• Use your tongue all over down there, but don't be afraid to suck a little on the clitoris, 
• Add a little finger (or two or even a toy) inside her to stimulate the G-spot as your make out with her down south region. 
• Try humming or grunting , the vibration of your voice humming or grunting will make your lady's eyes roll back and be ready, she may grab your head and/or pull your hair! 

For both: 

• Nipple stimulation goes well with oral sex for both men and women
• When your partner is working on you feel free to touch the giver, be sexy and be connected, men, be careful not to push down to hard on your partners head while some might like it a lot but it will possibly make her gag and clench up and you may feel her teeth. Communications is key here. It is probably a bit of a turn off her.  Let your lady run her mouth up and down on your shaft at her pace.
• Run your fingers through your partners hair and maybe even pull it slightly. Grasp and play with their earlobes too, that's sexy

I hope this helps excite your hump day and your sex life. If there are any of you who are once a weekers, or less (gasp) try my Hump Day Challenges! You never know you may find something that you both like! The Hump Day Challenge is just a suggestion. There is no way it can be done wrong unless you don't have fun or if you don't try it or if you end up in a fight (relax and go with something you are both comfortable with). You don't have to go start to finish orally to successfully complete this challenge. You just have to try! Enjoy your mate love him/her see if you like to pleasure or be pleasured more, you may be surprised. Focus today on pleasuring your partner make him/her feel that ecstasy that leads to a release and the inhibitions go away and your see the real person you are with. You express your love for him/her and he/she expresses their love to you in a raw and real way. Let that draw you closer hold on to that feeling and that will keep you strong in your relationship. Love you lover with all your heart soul and mind and today also with your mouth!

#Everday2015

P.S. Update From yesterday: Today I don't feel as productive as yesterday. I don't feel the drive I felt yesterday. However I don't feel completely downer as I have normally. Today is Wednesday, my volunteer day at school, so I don't have the freedom of having all day to get shit done. So like normal, I tend to look at my schedule as full when really I was today only at school until 11:30. And even if I was there longer, I need to remind myself that there is still a lot that can be done even in a short 15 minute span of time around the house. For Sex Love and Washing Clothes I think I am going to start making checklists or guides for myself to help accomplish stuff during the week. Especially since I will be also rejoining the ranks of working moms again. WHAT?! Yes, you heard that right, I am going to go back to work at the office I recently (last April) left to focus on my family and house. I will be there Tuesday and Thursdays during school hours so I don't have to worry about childcare ect. So all the more reason to get my shit together so I have a better guide and plan to get stuff done.

Competition Wednessday...Go Score

Happy Hump Day everyone! On Wednesdays I usually try to have a "Hump Day Challenge" or a topic on Sex (some weeks it comes up more than others). I am kind of struggling drawing a Seahawks and/or a Superbowl reference here to! It is Hump Day of Super Bowl Week! The Seahawks are in the Super Bowl prepping for a repeat as we speak. It is competition Wednesday! How can I draw the Seahawks, Super Bowl, Hump Day, Competition Wednesday and Sex together without it feeling like a stretch?..... I'll try, here goes nothing

How are we all doing on the #Everyday2015? Is anyone still in it? Have you done "it" 28 times this year? Well, I have! Sometimes I feel full of shit for writing this blog. When the Hubs and I are in daily life of normal family type things that are less than glamorous and we seem or feel in that moment less than happy, it is tough to spend any more moments trying to please the man (or him trying to please me.) We have done it though. We powered through a few nights and came out the other side and guess what, it made us closer and we are happier for it. We get into spats or mini sometimes major arguments that start because of thoughts like this: "I know I am working harder than he is because I am in here the kitchen cooking and cleaning after a day of grocery shopping, organizing, volunteering at school and then going to get the kid from practice getting their homework done and off to bed and finally at 9 or so I can sit down next to him and relax"...all the while he is thinking he is working harder than I am because he is getting up early going to work everyday then coming home and fixing the broken washing machine and then going to take a kid to practice and then finally at 9 he can finally sit down... Our stories are not very different. In actuality they sound very similar right? Well we have to stop being selfish! Both stories are right but why do we find the need to compare how hard we are working against how hard our spouse it working! I guarantee you are both putting in the same amount of effort. Maybe not on a physical level and maybe not completely even across the board everyday but you are both giving your lives 100% to your family in one way or another!

Let's take an example of our team! The Seahawks started out the season 3-3 and then went to 6-4. That was right about when analyst and band wagoners were counting them out. It was also right about when the team leaders got everyone together for a player only meeting to recommit to each other. They started playing the game FOR each other! Not just for themselves, not even for the win, for the love of their brothers. We all know how that ended(Superbowl baby!). When you stop looking over your shoulder and comparing what you are doing vs what your teammates are doing you. You get better. You can't control them anyway. You can only control you. If you know your teammate is giving 100% every play you don't want to be the guy to take a play off and give up a big play. You would let him down. You want to be the guy following the play through so you can help block or catch a tipped ball. When a teammate needs help you help him out you do it because you know he would do it for you! That is when you become unstoppable. That is why I believe the Seahawks will win the Super Bowl! The Defense has the back of the offense. Those players play for each other each play individually for the rest of the team. They have short memories of dropped balls and mistakes they are always looking at the goal that is a team win! They do not point fingers at the guy who dropped a ball or missed a tackle. They maintain trust, that when needed, that same teammate will come up big! Seahawks will win as team. We as couples and families need to win as a team

At sometimes during this month of Sex, Love and Washing Clothes I have thought that this was the answer to true happiness. It has not been bad for my life but it also has not been a magical pill, we still have to the work,  just like we did before! When the Hubs and I start keeping tally of what you did for me or what I did for you things go bad. As I am sure that happens to you too! We all need to remember we are on the same team. Yes right now I may be dropping the ball a little more than you or maybe you feel your spouse doesn't help out enough. Maybe your spouse is waiting for you to ask. It probably is miss communication and sometimes if you are like us trying to talk about that miss communication only creates more miss communication. Show your spouse you care about what is bothering them.

"In every complaint there is a deep personal longing." ~John Gottman 

Pay attention to your partners complaints what is there deep personal longing that they are needing to communicate but can't figure out how. Maybe they need more connection, maybe they are overworked at the office, maybe stressed about finances or maybe they just don't feel like you pay attention to them enough. Try to talk to them but also if you listen to their complaints (don't take them personal it's about them not you) and see if there is a way you can help come to a solution, ask them if there is a solution they are looking for. One solution may just be to have someone who will let them complain or even complain about the same thing along with them. That may help to bridge the divide that daily life stress causes!

My favorite advice: When in doubt have sex. Grab some erotic pictures off the internet, read erotic stories or make up your own with your mate. Get out the sex dice and put aside your differences and have a crazy fun romp. If time is an issue, go to bed earlier or invest in a lock for your door crank up the TV to muffle the noise and tell your kids you are off work for the night! But get in that positive touch somehow! Remember the person you fell in love with. The overworked under paid and overextended dad of your kids might not be too attractive right now but put him in a room with no distractions and give him your 100% naked body attention you may remember what the real Bare Necessities of life really are! So will he,hopefully he can turn off his brain for it, don't take it personal just give him time and be patient.

Go get you some tonight folks! Be in this moment like it is a 2 minute drill at the end of the 4th Quarter for the win of the Superbowl! It is competition Wednesday, make it competition worthy. If you want to compete with your spouse here are the parameters who can make the other one cringe with excitement better faster and longer hold it there for you to catch up and together let it go for a Score!
Go Hawks! Go Families! Go Couples!

#Everyday2015

Do you ever get that feeling....

Do you ever get that feeling that you know you need to get up and get motivated but just can't. That feeling that you could be doing things better or different but just can't muster the energy to do so. And then that feeling that you are so angry with yourself for letting yourself down. When you do that to your self, I call it self sabotage. You are not letting your mom, your kids or your husband down or the friend who is never there for you anyway, you are letting yourself down. (Who is always there) Why can't we get motivated to take care of ourselves the way we take care of others. If someone is counting on us to babysit or to teach a class or to make the neighbor a healthy dinner after a rough loss in the family, we pull out all the stops, we even get out good dishes out that have to be hand washed. But when it's time for us to eat alone we grab chips or leftovers from the other night that hopefully have not grown hair or bacteria that will get us sick. Don't worry we will microwave it and that will kill all the germs right? Why would we not do the best for ourselves?

We know that we feel better when we get up and workout so why do we get up eat donuts and sugar laden coffee and then complain that we feel shitty? It's fucking bull shit people. Sorry for the harsh language but come on! You know I am talking about you! We sit on the couch and complain that we are not seeing our friends or family enough but we are too cheap or lazy to go visit them! Yeah maybe we are busy and need down time but don't use that as an excuse to blame everyone else and not take care of you! It is our sole responsibility to take care of number 1 (my dad taught me that, or at least tried I did not learn it very well). So why do we allow ourselves to let ourselves go?

When I say let ourselves go I mean more than gaining a few pounds and not wearing makeup or nice clothes. I mean getting to the point that we are not happy! We sit and eat the rest of the chocolate cake instead of cleaning the kitchen or going for a walk. We sit and watch reality TV instead of getting up and getting in the shower to get ourselves presentable for the rest of the world. (I am not saying you have to dress to the nines or even dress to impress) I am referring to those stay home moms who yes do a lot and we are allowed and have the freedom to sit on the couch and relax when we feel overwhelmed but we don't have to look it. And we don't have to  and no one is looking because really we do most of our "work" when everyone is home, running to practices, making and cleaning up dinner bed time routines etc. And if you are like me you like to hang with the family especially that time that we get next to my amazing husband cuddling on the couch.

You know that feeling you get when you want to cry but you don't know why? Yeah, me too. But you know what in reality, it is not that we don't know why. At least for me I now why I want to cry I just don't want to admit it. A lot of the time it is me I have let myself down.

Here are a few suggestions, in no particular order, to snapping yourself out of this. Start today, start slow or dive in head first who cares just make progress, and no crying on the couch eating chocolate cake is not progress (all though it fills the void you will only be crying about it later too):

1. Get a massage, or meditate take time to refocus your brain
2. Grind it out (just do it clean the house or get in your 4 miler! I know easier said than done)
3. Give yourself time limits on certain distracting activities. If you know you love to sew but need to cook dinner give yourself a timer so that you can enjoy your sewing but be done with ample time to make dinner
4. HAVE A PLAN (my struggle I have the big bubble thoughts in my head that sound great but don't plan it out so it ends up just bubble thougths in my head)
5. Delegate! Give you kids and husband jobs. Preassigned or just as needed. (if the husband is down with that. If he is not okay with that don't give him jobs if he is not you don't want your kids to see him not doing his "job" and use that as an excuse sometimes the working full time thing is enough for the husband to do, and sometimes you need help. If you ask I bet he will be more than willing to help but this sometimes can be a touchy subject so proceed with caution and really be respectful, you don't want to be the mommy wife, but if the kids are protesting start taking away privileges, one privilege is they get to live in this house for free not that you can take that away but remind them of it!!!!)
6. Last but not least....get an attitude adjustment! Yes "That" kind of attitude adjustment. If needed get Grandma, farm them off to a friend, or hire an overnight nanny and go to a hotel. Or use a lock on your door and have that kind of crazy relaxing passionate love making sex that you lay back and go..."WOW"
7. Or when all else fails out a smile on your face and as Dori says "Just Keep Swimming"

So time to strap up the big girl bra and get cracking. I am putting on my Young Living En-R-Gee Essential Oil (motivation in a bottle) and Brain Power (focus in a bottle) and getting to work! No more whining and feeling sorry for me and no more letting myself down! We need to treat ourselves the way we treat everyone else. We are not lazy when it comes to work (if you work out of the home or when you did) we don't go lazy when it comes to kids or helping friends or husband now let's stop going lazy when it comes to ourselves. So get a shower put on clothes and maybe even cute shoes (we don't wear shows in the house) I will be proud of my work today and I will take into consideration the state of myself and honor me! I will Love me and always do my best and give myself the benefit of the doubt! I am going to do me today. Go do you today! Take care of you! My business cards used to say "take the time to take care of you!" It's time to once again recommit to that!

I could really use a good attitude Adjustment! (Hint hint to you Hubs, wink wink) But writing this and coming back to read it is helping me get motivated, I hope it helps you too! Have a great day, you deserve it and deserve to be loved by you, not just by your kids and husband. Those who created you (your parents) and those you created life with (spouse) and those you gave life to (your kids) deserve to have a teammate in you and not be carrying you through life without your help. Love yourself the way they love you and the way you love them!

That is your challenge today on this hump day: Love you and show your family that you do! Please share with me what you are doing to take care of you today!

#Everyday2015

Dedicated Fan of Your Team?

How dedicated are you? How dedicated am I? It is January 12 and I have kept my Sex Love and Washing Clothes Bare Necessity "resolution". Is it a resolution? There are a handful of Seahawks fans right now, sitting outside Qwest Field to get tickets to watch the Seahawks in the NFC Championship game. Those fans are hard core but does that make them dedicated? I have my tickets already since we are season ticket holders and have the chance to preorder play off tickets. My 9 years of going to games and toughing out through the 4-12 seasons earned/bought me the right to not have to sit in that line at the stadium. I think that is dedication. Tickets are on average upwards of $100 each for 10 games (2 preseason, 8 regular season) and the about 50+% more for playoffs. Are the season ticket holders who put aside those Sundays show up everyday pay for the season in April dedicated more than those sitting outside the stadium for 48 hours? (I think so, yes, but does it really matter?) Those fans are hard core and dedicated who is more hard core? (I don't think it really matters.) Is dedication those who pay double the face value the week of the game and stand in line for two days to get play off tickets? What makes you dedicated? What drives those folks to sit outside for 48 hours to watch a game? I have sat outside watching games for 9 seasons as a season ticket holder but before that spent as much to go to half the games. That's dediciation. There have been a few seasons you couldn't give tickets away, people even let their names fall of the the Blue Pride list (the wait list for season tickets). Those of us who were there through thick and thin the years we went to the Superbowl and the years we went single digits and the dreaded 4-12 year, that's dedication we are hard core. We are all 12s that is what it is all about. This week is different though you get a different kind of 12 in weeks and years like this one. It's the NFC Championship week, I realize this game is big, it is worth the wait outside of the stadium for 48 hours, it doesn't happen every day! This is a thought provoker for me (and a good theme for my writing). So let's explore this theory as it relates to the Sex Love and Washing Clothes audience

When we get married we say our vows, (fans have not said vows to or for their team but some act like it and some are out and booing at the first sign of trouble). We say for better or worse (which means in the Superbowl years and in the 4-12 years) but nowadays (hate that word but my dad used to use it and I do now as well) do people really mean it? You don't know how many people have said to me "I would never put up with that" when referring to some of my relationship issues over the span of my marriage. Well, that should be obvious since most of those people are single and/or divorced and/or afraid to and/or will not marry. Divorce rates are up compared to when our parents were married. Many people never (or never will again) say vows to each other because they either don't want to have to commit or because they are afraid their mate won't or they don't want to have to stick it out when things get tough, but most often use the excuse they don't want to get hurt. Are we fair weather fans of marriage only doing it when it feels good and you are winning? Like those who fell off the Blue Pride list the losing years of Seahawks seasons? Do we pick up and move to another bandwagon when things don't feel as electric as those 13-3 years? I think a lot of people in a lot of different situations do, not all there are loyal fans of being married! I have been on the team Earl even before I married my best friend in 2000. His family accepted me I accepted them and he was on my family team even before I became an Earl. We are dedicated fans (and members of) each other's families, just as we are of our current family even before it was a team of 4 just the 2 of us, and just as we are dedicated fans of the Seahawks. We are not looking to find a new team every time the season gets rough (let me tell you there has been some rough ones as i know you all have also experienced). Sometimes it seems there are fans of sports teams and are more loyal to them than they are to their spouses. Which I think is sad. 

A good competitive game, a good play or star player helps people come back or keeps them there to be fans of the team and fill the seats on game day. I think this compares to good sex. Good sex in a long term relationship is like the good games or big plays that keep fans excited, the Beast Mode Run, a Hole In One, a Grand Slam Home Run, a No Hitter, or a Hat Trick, to name a few things in sports that will get us excited even when our team is not winning. Even in the losses of a team struggling the fans will keep coming back for those special moments and gain hope from that. "It's something to build on" Good sex is your star athlete that can keep you and your spouse coming back to each other. You will have little need to go somewhere else because that is the draw to your spouse. The Big Touchdown Pass or Strike Out, that Hole In One that keeps you watching and waiting for it to happen. Not that sex is everything in a relationship but it can definitely the be the star of the team. Especially where I came from, you need a draw to your team. Seattle sports have a way of letting you down. Until last year when the Seahawks won the Superbowl, we watched the Mariners win the most regular season games in the History of the MLB 116, I was at that game, only to lose in the first round of the playoffs. Seattle is used to getting so close and then a let down. But we kept going back for more. A long term relationship with some struggles that you have good sex through it all, is like a team with a not so good record but a team that is always in the game or has a player that is electric to watch even in the loss it keeps you going back for more. Sex has kept my relationship spicy and hard to leave at times. What makes it hard to leave is my dedication to the Hubs and my family and I actually love my husband. We love each other and took our vows serious but really we have something to keep us coming back for more. Good sex. We have a lot of good stuff but sex reminds us that. It is very palpable... Like a team that pulls it out in a come from behind win and to make the playoffs and reignites the band wagoners, but when you constantly have good sex, you won't fall off the bandwagon you may try but will always be pulled back up on it with those Beast Mode Runs or The Grand Slam Home Run finish in this case those plays start with "O" (hehe)

It's kind of like a buzz or a rush you get when you watch your team win (or have an orgasm)! The anticipation the energy and excitement of a good game... the anticipation is the best part aside from the actual win! Yes, you can have that with your spouse, tonight. Start now, Send a text message that says something like "I can't wait to see you naked later" or send a sexy picture to your husband at work, the less clothes, if any, the better. He may get embarrassed for a moment but then will be excited and then everyday will wonder and look at your messages with anticipation that there may be another one like that. Then when he gets home be playful, don't yell at him when he grabs your booty while you do the dishes, he is excited to see what tonight is going to bring. Husbands, do these previous things to let your wife know you got her message and are excited for it too! Everyone loves the "big game" even if you are not a rabid fan of the specific team, any sports fan can respect another team's big game. So make your "big game" a little excitement in the bedroom. There is nothing like a big win or a Big "O".

It's time to make your spouse a fan of your team (as if he is not already) ...Ok, my SAHM readers I know this is a bit of a stretch especially if you are not a sports fan but come on ladies send those sexy texts (it does not have to be pictures but I know you man will enjoy it) and get ready for the big game because it's coming up tonight and hopefully you both will be coming tonight!

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Two-a-Days and Locks

Happy Friday that feels like a Monday. Although many of you may still be enjoying vacation, the Hubs had to go back to work so it feels like Monday here. I hope everyone got to enjoy New Years Day with family and friends.

Today on the Sex Love and Washing Clothes agenda is probably taking down Christmas.  Washing Dark clothes and folding the rest of the clothes that are clean, only about 3 loads, two of which are towels, actually as I look over I see about half a load of towels are folded they got done yesterday morning.  Then, it's Friday which is sure to be a fun time in the sac, okay honestly I am hoping it's not in the sac, I am hoping for sex in my 'favorite spot". The Husband's favorite spot is the same the actions are slightly different, just as enjoyable.  (Maybe in the future I will get into more details but for now I am keeping it PG...well, maybe not PG, PG-13?.....Alright it is already R rated I am just not ready to go into the 50 Shades of Ruby yet so let me warm up a bit and feel this blogging thing out and I will get more detailed....possibly)

Yesterday, I mentioned that it may be the first 'two a day' in 2015. (Which it was BTW, yay me!)  So let me explain a two a day, or actually, define "a day".  This was a heated debate (not in a negative way) one night driving a friend of ours home around 2 am.  My questions was "If we get it on again (since we had already had sex before we went out that night) will it still count as a two a day, since it is 'tomorrow' already?" It was decided that a "day" will be defined as: from when you get up on a particular day in the morning until you go to sleep in your bed at night even if the night ends at 5 am. You are not stuck on the 24 hour calendar clock day.  So technically you could get in a two (or three a day) if you have morning sex Saturday and then go out to a late show Saturday Night and have one last romp when you get home at 1 am Sunday morning. However the 1 am Sunday sex will not count toward two a day Sunday it will count toward Saturday. The 1 am sex was technically (for these purposes) Saturday before you went to sleep.  This is a fun debate the Hubs and I have had and do occasionally change and/or bend the rules slightly. Got it? Good now go get it, twice!

Two a days are fun they tend to happen on weekends when the kids spend the night at grandma's. However, we do not limit ourselves to kidless nights and/or mornings for sex. We have taught our kids to knock before they come into our bedroom. We don't have a lock on our door but we have double doors and tie a a bathrobe tie around the door knobs when we need more "privacy".  It works. The kids have in the past tried to come in and couldn't get the door opened and learned to knock and do not even try the door anymore.  I think as they are getting older (8 and 10) they realize if we have tied the door they know they don't want in. So if I can be educational for a minute, invest in a lock for your door!  Don't let that be an excuse even if it's a bathrobe tie :-)  On a side note, be careful and try not to sleep with the door locked, sometimes in the middle of the night a sleepy child doesn't think to knock and gets confused and/or scared when they can't get in. Take a minute to lock the door when you wake up to go pee (because we all know we have to take that step before a good session of loving).

So go have a two a day or just leave options open for morning sex (that is when the lock comes in handy). Love your kids and love you spouse...and by love your spouse I mean have hot steamy weekend sex behind a locked door :-)

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