Enjoy This Moment!

Today is the day before Super Bowl 49! I saw a picture a friend who is there posted and it was a sea of 12s! A 12 is a loyal Seahawks fan, loud and proud. The 12th Man helping the team win. We are loyal to our team and we are loud! It is kind of a perfect science being a 12, Paul Allen created our stadium for the 12s to maximize the volume but as a 12 the science is being loud as loud as you can, you have to make your voice last until the end of the game. It is knowing when to be loud, loud on defense quiet on offense. University of Phoenix Stadium is going to be loud! Go Hawks!

How loyal are you to your team? I got chills, goose bumps and tears (I am always really emotional) when I saw all the 12s in AZ! Win or lose I am a true 12 a fan! I am raising 2 more true 12s as well! I am connected to this team and have used the Seahawks team and their philosophies to motivate my kids and myself! This team, this game is a big thing in life, speaks to me on so many levels. I am sort of a crazy super fan. I get motivation, relief from stress, happiness and joy from the Seahawks football team. I get a family day tomorrow with my husband kids and one of my favorite girl friends and her family tomorrow because of it! I am so thankful for that!

This morning the Girl and I made two Seahawks themed cakes for a fundraiser Auction for her dance team (Seahawks are really infused in our lives). The Boy and Hubs were at baseball tryouts and now we are watching Superbowl coverage for tomorrows game! So excited for our team they deserve a great win! Superbowl Sunday really should be a national holiday! It is more versatile than any other holiday we nationally recognize. We will be glued to the TV and love every second of it! Use your Seahawks voice a lot it will be 8 months until you get to do it again!What is your ritual for good luck our is Good Luck Sex, of course it is right?  No pre-game pep talk needed! We will be having our Superbowl good luck sex and enjoy it and we will use our Seahawks voices, maybe Grandma will take the kids tonight.... Go get you some!

I am going to help the Girl curl her hair for a performance can't wait to watch her dance tonight! (I am a true 12 when watching her dance to, she is so good.) What a great two days I get. I am going to stay in and enjoy this moment!

#GoHawks 

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Turnover Thursday, Take Control!

Happy Blue Thursday! It's Turnover Thursday! Today I weighed myself and weighed in in the 160's!!!  First time in 2015 and only the second time in a very long time! Yay me! I don't like to share my weight but being that I share everything else why not? This last week has been a bit rough with "that time of the month" and a lot of cheat bites of cake or frosting or skittles! With the Seahawks being in the Super Bowl this weekend, Hell, just the Super Bowl parties in general makes it tough. In our culture, we celebrate everything with food. We also commiserate with food and we fill our boredom with food and procrastinate with food. We make memories with food. That, especially memory making, is not all bad. It started when our country was discovered during the first Thanksgiving ever! And let's not forget the Thanksgiving Celebration this year with Russell Wilson and Richard Sherman on the 50 yard line at Levi Stadium after the big win on Thanksgiving Day. I struggle with having a good relationship with food. The word moderation used to be my motto but then I realized I don't know how to exercise moderation in terms of food. So as you readers of this blog know I have restricted my food intake this month going no carbs and also doing "Dry January" both of those thing contributed to my weight loss of about 8 pounds so far this month.

What's a worry for me (yes I know worry is bad and serves no purpose) is that this weekend Sunday is Super Bowl Sunday and Februaury 1. The end of Dry January and No Carb January. My Seahawks are participating in this game (and I am super stoked and excited, as you all know already #GoHawks!) I am worried about tanking my weight loss track, I am worried if I eat too much I will not stay in the 160s and I am worried that if I don't eat this weekend I will never get to touch a Nacho ever again! OK, I know that sounds stupid but I think that is one thing that keeps me eating sometimes. (Again, yes this is very illogical but honestly it is a subconscious thing that people with bad relationships with food struggle with) I eat like I will never get another snack or treat again. If I could convince myself that food will always be there I don't need to stock up for the winter (or for the term of the diet) then I may have an easier time saying, no. And the fact that it will be February, I won't have Dry January to fall back on. Not that I can't avoid it just because, but this girl struggles telling herself no sometimes. But I will continue to go as I have during the last three months that I have lost about 25 pounds. I would like to be down 10-20 pounds more which would put me at my wedding weight I think I may be happy just being in the 150s.... But who knows I am the type who is never happy with the way I look. I will continue to work on that! I am proud of myself for where I am at now and almost enjoying clothes again!

Body image and self confidence is a subject that all women I believe struggle with! Confidence and Self Esteem, both things I want my daughter to learn better than I did. I was never taught that, my mom was never confident. I was not modeled any of that by my mom! (and The Girls is already on a better track than I was at her age thanks to dance and her ability to love herself and be proud of who she is I will take a bit of that credit too, but it probably comes from the Hubs) As I draw a connection to my blog post today to The Seahawks, those guys have confidence! They are good and they know it and they don't doubt themselves. They are good now but they like me, were not born good at football, they trained and learned and prepared and practiced and they continue to practice! They set themselves up with a game plan and don't waver and they bring home the win. I have planned and prepared meals, set aside time for workouts and have tried these last few months to prepare to be healthy and fit into my jeans! I will continue to do the same. My plan for this weekend to not tank my weight loss journey (which by the way when I get to my goal I will be getting a Seahawks inspired tattoo). My plan is to be prepared, to use my Emeals subscription to plan my meals and scheduling exercise. I am going to continue to use my Seahawks blinged out travel cup to get in enough water and when needed I will add and extra run in to intercept any extra calories trying to attaching to my hips (or something like that).

Bottom line I will use the model I see from the Seahawks to have a game plan  for success (meal planning, exercise, hydration) and I will tackle it and when I am down or get sacked I will get back up and keep my focus as this game and go for it! It is not over until it's over and I will be the Champion that I know I am! I can't wait for the game this weekend the Seahawks are going to play hard and do their best and, I think, beat the Pats! Even cheating teams, eh hem Patriots, will see this team is no joke! I don't know who will win, I hope it is the Seahawks, but I do know that my team will come out playing hard, hitting hard and bring 100% effort all the way to the end, I don't think anyone can beat them when they come out playing hard for each other and stay focused. So I will do the same I will work hard for me, no one (no food) can beat me when I go hard and stay focused! 

What part of your life do you need to take control over and stay focused to achieve? Game Plan, train and prepare to win! Always Compete! Today is Turnover Thursday, go get what is yours take it from the enemy and claim your prize, LOB style! Earn everything, you know you can! You deserve to take care of you! But if you need motivation look at your team around you (your family) and do it for them! They deserve you to be the best you, for them!

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Go Hawks!

Mom's Seahawks Player Personality

Edit note: I used Stay at Home Mom reference for this but really it can be used synonymously with mom. I believe it is not only relevent to stay at home mom's all moms I believe possess all of these qualities working, part time full time and stay at homers!
Today is Monday of Super Bowl 49 Week. My Seattle Seahawks are competing for the title of Super Bowl 49 Champions! One thing we hear Pete Carroll and the team use a lot is "Always Compete". In football a lot of cliches and metaphors are used. And more are made each day! I am going to take a championship attitude to everything I do this week. It is easy to give a football competition metaphor to another sport but I am going to try to apply it to Sex Love and Washing Clothes this week. I am going to start with the "Washing clothes" in this blog.

My focus today is to get my Master Bedroom done, purge old stuff, reorganize the stuff that stays and make it easily manageable to stay that way. Having a Championship Mindset for this task is going to start with preparation. This task of cleaning, purging and reoraganizing is like practice and weight training and game planning. The cleaning and purging part is the strength training. Repitition that is to strengthen for the purpose of getting stronger and faster. Training in the sport specificity but not specifically playing the actual game or route running or anything. The Reorganizing is game planning and preactice reps. Making sure things have a home and there is easy access to it and it looks good to the eye. Daily living and putting things away when finished using it and not throwing clothes on the floor and keep it up is the game part. The Championship part. To be a Champion here my room will have to stay clean and organized! Everyday for a stay at home mom her game is putting things away dusting off the tops of the shelf and vacuuming up the dirt brought in from the family. 

Let's break down the players (Seahawks) on the field in relation to Stay at Home Moms

A SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) is like the linemen on the field. (Shout out to Max Unger, Justin Britt Russel Okung some of my faves) She does the dirty work so the QB and WR can make an amazing catch and throw and celebrate the touchdown in the Endzone. Meanwhile mom, or lineman in this metaphor, lay on their back recovering from exhaustion as the touchdown dance is celebrated (Dear Linemen, please don't get offended in the metaphor. You know those rough grinding days that the opponents really make you work. I know you condition and work hard and many times are right the in celebration but those rough days, same to you moms you know those days you just want to lay down on the floor in the waiting room for the well child check up, do we always have to be vertical?)

Now SAHMs don't get offended by me calling you a lineman. Let me add some context for you non football SAHMs out there. Lineman protect the Quarterback. They make holes for Lynch and Turbin to run through to score. Without the lineman (the bigs guys who line up kind of squatted in a three point stace over the ball) our skill players (quaterbacks, wide recievers and running backs) could  not excite us with their skills! Linemen grind, I bet they got to work on Sundays knowing they might get their ass kicked that day and/or they will give an ass kicking! The way I know that I will today when I go into my master bedroom but I will not stop until I too give one! Marshawn is going to be scoring and skittle will be flying! And for your defensive linemen type, there will be some blockers on their back and that QB of clutter (my Tom Brady today) will be sacked at lest 4 times today might even tip one of his deflated balls.

Or maybe we stay at home moms are like the LOB, the Legion of Boom. They steal the ball from the hot shot QB of the bad guy team in the form of interceptions and sometimes they even get a pick six (which is where they score a touchdown). Or they strip the ball from the hands of the ball carrier. They deliver the big hit like Kam Chancellor did against Vernon Davis on National TV a couple seasons ago (had to post a link of this hit). Or they tip the ball away from a would we be game winning touchdown like Richard Sherman did in the 2013 NFC Championship game vs Crabtree the infamous Mediocre receiver. Or we are like Earl Thomas who sits back and waits for his oppurtunity to pounce on the offensive player with the ball. Even with a dislocated Shoulder in this years NFC Championship Game he laid a hit on Eddy Lacey to hold him out of the Endzone! (Earl Thomas is my favorite player!) He is so focused so calculated so explosive, so good! Mom's are an important role in families, they protect their family the way the LOB protects the Seahawks Endzone. We Like the LOB, always know when and where to come up with a big hit, pick six, or a strip in the form or a great snack, a fun party game to keep kids from killing each other, running in that library book just in time for your kid to check out a new one and flashing the headlights at the bus driver so your kid doesn't miss the bus, that finishing move with the husband (wink wink) we know how to come up with the big plays when all seems down.

SAHMs also can relate to how Russell Wilson and company run the offense. Well calculated game plan flawless execution. Always ready for what comes next never surprised and when there is something that doesn't work there is no panic. He can rely on the Beast of Marshawn Lynch to run it into the Endzone or use him in a Play Action and get the job done with a QB sneak. Mom's, just like Russel Wilson, know how to use our assets we delegate but are not afraid of keeping it ourselves and running for the first down or into the Endzone for the touchdown. 

There is a mom metaphor to Luke Willson the Tight End as well. He lines up on the line and protects the QB for pass plays but he is also available to run up the seam for the score! I love the Wilson to Willso play it is just so fun to say. We mom's can make the plays like Russell Wilson but can also be versitile like a Tight End needs to be. Sometimes they have the QBs Back in a blocking sceme and others they are the featured receiver, just don't drop the ball and know your route, which all mom's are great at!

We moms also relate to Marshawn Lynch pretty well. He is "All about that Action" as are we. It doesn't matter how it gets done it just needs to get done and if you get in our way especially if you get in our kids way we will stiff arm you, knock you down and then walk into the Endzone that is ours to score the touchdown aka get shit done! But don't ask us how we did it. We don't want to tell you how we got the teacher to see things our way or how we made the right moves to get things just perfect for that birthday party we just did it. Let our body of work speak for itself and get the fuck out of our way! (Next time you wife grabs her crotch as she finishes dinner cleans the kitchen and folds the laundry in time for her favorite show, don't punish her just give her some Skittles)

Maybe we are like the Linebackers Bruce Irvin and KJ Wright they come up big with a sack at the right time. (the Hubs was a line backer too.) The linebacker is like the QB of the defense. Calling in defensive plays making sure everyone is where they need to be (at least that's how the Hubs team is) They also are the ones who get to blitz and sack the opposing QB. The Seahawks LBs are kind of quiet but will let you know who is there when it needs recognizing.

SAHMs are also a little like Micheal Bennett in that we are not afraid to get on a bike and go for a Joyride. But for us that might look like swinging on the swing at the park, yes we know it's for the kids but why not take a moment for some fun when we deserve it!

But realistically we probably fit the best with Pete Carrol...He manages all these personalities. He taught and instilled the Championship mind set in these players. These players love Pete Carrol and it shows has been able to reach the players who have been well off from the time of birth to those rose from the ghettos. He can hang with Marshawn and Russell and have them on the same page. who would have thought or expected that from the 2nd oldest coach in the league? We moms are similar, we can get the dancer and the wrestler working together on chores after school and then get them to their respective practices on time. We know what to feed the Boy before practice to get him to focus and we know that the Girl needs the right water bottle in order to stay hydrated. We know what it takes to make our family Champions and we do it in our own way and will continue our way no matter what the experts say! Stay your course. Pete Carrol has kept the Seahawks schedule the same as he did last year when they won. We mom's take control of our families in the schedules, to feeding, the taxi-ing, the game planning. We do it all we have to have confidence and know our team and make it work for them! This is where we shine, but not really "shine" we don't get a whole lot of the credit but we are the Pete Carols of our family
And we mom's have our days (some more than others) Just like Wide Reciever Jermaine Kearse and "angry Doug Baldwin" did in the NFC Championship game. Jermaine had a few dropped passes, a tip (maybe 2) that resulted in an intercetption. Despite his best efforts he kept coming up short. But he never gave up and Russle never gave up on him. He and Doug Baldwin kept going out the and grinding and working. Doug caught a long pass to give the drive momentum and in the end Jermaine caught the winning touchdown. We mom's have our rough days and dropped balls. We gotta keep on trying  keep grindingand the family has got to keep on trusting and we will win the game for them! Never give up moms! Honestly I don't think we know how (and by we I mean we mom's and The Seahawks)

What is your SAHM player personality? Do you have another suggestion? I would be curious if the players would agree with me and my SAHM metaphors. It was fun writing, hope you like it and get inspired this SuperBowl Week!  Go Hawks!

Send in the troups if you don't hear from me off to tackle the Master Bedroom!!!

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There Are No Replays In Real Life, Don't Miss That Amazing Catch!

It is Sunday!!! Pro Bowl game is on the TV right now it is 5:30 PM! I haven't got a chance to write yet. 

I made an awesome breakfast, eggs, sausage and cheese scramble and hash-brown, sausage and cheese skillet. Well for the kids it was lunch...brunch. Then as I cleaned up the kitchen then the Hubs was working on the Hot Tub he asked for my assistance and I had to run an hour away for a part for it only to realize that it was closed despite what the website and their message on their phone says. So the Girl (who rode with me)  and I went to Dania, my favorite and now her favorite, furniture store. So it didn't feel like a wasted hour long drive...The Boy and the Hubs used the time to go throw the ball around and get ready for Little League try outs next week. As I was driving I was thinking about the fact that I hadn't written to my blog yet and that I will be home in time to watch the Pro Bowl with the fam (we are a true football family) and make dinner and do normal everyday mom-ish type things. I was feeling like the whole writing thing today might not happen because I don't want to miss out on time with the family.

As I sit here writing I pause to laugh, The boy just told the Hubs not to use Viagra because he (referring to himself) could get skin cancer...WTF? Where the hell did that come from? I had to stop to laugh and giggle. I asked why he had some reason that didn't make sense but just a little hilarity that goes on here in the Earl household.

So what I want to say it that it is important to me to be present in my household. Not just home, not just in the same room. (We are now giggling about the funniness of these Mathew McConaughey commercials). Being present is not sitting in a room on your phone while at your child's baseball practice. Don't give me the "I am at my kids practice everyday" as if it takes so much effort to sit and scroll through Facebook while you sit in the car and watch my husband teach your kid the nuances of the game. Not that I think you have to be there, but that is not being present. I am not being super present with my family right now, my real time side notes are a little examples of what I might be missing and half an attempt to try to make them think I am being present.

Basically to be present you have to put your phone down (insert other applicable electronic device here as in Ipad, laptop or even your knitting) and your head up. I just missed an amazing catch by Antonio Brown in Triple coverage, good thing for replay I can look up and watch it, it was a great catch, however I did missed the hit on Andrew Luck as he played. There are no replays in real life. If you miss your son's base hit or home run because your head was buried in your phone or you were chatting with another mom (guilty), you will not get that moment back. ...(Pause another McConaughey commercial).... If not present I wouldn't be able to watch my son crack up about it, not because he knows what he is saying because his dad is making fun of it and The Boy thinks it's funny and wants to make his dad laugh more. Sometimes it is a good release to take that moment to have the mom to mom chat and get a vent out or let another mom vent. But seriously Facebook Twitter and this blog even can wait until later it is digital don't miss your families moments!

So put your phone down, and pick your head up. Make eye contact with your family (and even the cashier at the grocery store) watch the game, don't miss you daughters dance for Facebook! Read my blog,,,everyday because I write it everyday but don't miss family time for it! And remember, that amazing things happen and will still happened even if you don't have a selfie to prove it! I am going to watch this game and get dinner going too. The Boy says "Go Team Carter" 

BTW The Hubs will tell me I need to practice what I preach so I am picking my head up! We probably all need a bit of a reminder to be present in every moment. Let's do this people!

One Week until Super Bowl 49... GoHawks!
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Savor Each Moment, Be A Champion

Today is the NFC Championship game and my beloved Seahawks are hosting the NFC Championship Game for the second year in a row! (Can you see that big smile on my face?) Many analysts are giving our opponent, Green Bay Packers no chance. Well I am more nervous than I was for the Championship Game that my son played in earlier this year (and it was my son playing and my husband coaching and I was pretty nervous). Big question is Why? Nervousness and worry serve no purpose, AT ALL! But I am still nervous. Which is kind of good because I have been nervous every game. The ones I wasn't as nervous at we lost. I don't strap up the pads, or prepare for a game why am I nervous. Maybe that is why. As a fan I have no control over how the game is played what plays are called and how well the players are prepared to and actually execute the play on the field. I have no control, except to intimidate the other team with our loud crowd noise us 12s are known for. If I had control I could watch more film, spend more time in the gym or do something to affect how well I will play. The only thing I can do is scream my heart out and hope it makes and impact on the game going on down on the field! But since I can't, I sit here and worry about nothing, no one will die if I don't or if the Seahawks lose. It will not affect my income or ability to provide for my family. It will affect the mood of the Hubs though and the kids might be a little sad (The Boy especially) but we will go on just as we have before. But I know what it felt like last year being at the game watching Richard Sherman bat the ball out away from Michael Crabtree and cement the Seahawks spot in the 48th Superbowl! It was surreal, amazing, joyfull and I want to feel that again, badly!

The things I am worried about: I am worried we will miss the ferry in the morning (confession I am writing this Saturday night before I go to bed so I can be 100% in the moment even on the ferry ride). I am worried we might miss kick off (it's an hour earlier than normal games) if we leave too late from the pregame spot. I am worried I might forget something so I have already laid out what I will wear, showered and all the things I need to take including my jewelry and glasses are sitting next to the bag I will carry with me, that also already has my wallet in it. I am not usually this prepared but that is how I can know we will get out of here with everything I will need. OMG I need to RELAX and enjoy the anticipation of this moment!

The lesson here today folks is to be in the moment, I am so worried about this game I have had little time to be excited and happy that we are even in this game! I, as well as many other 12s some more than me, want so badly for our team be in the Superbowl that we are forgetting how great it is to be in this NFC Championship game! I, sadly, do this sometimes with the family and with my husband. I want so badly to not miss something that I worry away the moments that we do have. Instead of savoring a moment we wish it would last forever and once it's gone all we have left is that feeling that we didn't savor it because we were too worried we were never going to experience it again. When I got married before I walked down the isle I said "wait, I want to anticipate more" what I meant really is I wanted to savor that moment! We all should savor each moment, especially the special moments, more often. Yes, we want the things that feel good to happen more and the things that make us sad to happen less but worrying one way or another just steals the moment away. We don't want to live our lives on the skip or fast forward button and that is what worry does to you.

Which is why I wrote this blog post now at almost midnight (between Saturday and Sunday) Championship Sunday so that I can savor the championship. I have already packed my stuff, had good luck sex (a must every week), made sure my lucky 12th Man hat my MIL made for me was in my bag...all I can do is savor the moment! I will scream loud, I will give respect for my team and be 100% in it tomorrow. Hopefully I will be able to rep the team and do the same in a few weeks at the Superbowl too. I am going to take the next 12+ hours savoring the fact that my team has a chance to play for a spot to go back to back in the Superbowl. 

So on this Championship Sunday, even if you are not a fan, you do the same. Be a Champion by going 1-0 today in everything you try to do even if you are not a fan of The Seahawks. Use the Seahawks 1-0 mantra to get you through. When you have the 1-0 mindset you don't get a second chance so you prepare like there is not a next week and you do everything as good, no better than you can! In order to do that you have to be in the moment and present at every moment. Be A champion and win each moment of everyday!  And use your Seahawks voice!

Be a Champion, Go 1-0 everyday

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List: How To Create a Football Connection

Happy Blue Friday!!!  Yes from where I live it is Blue Friday officially the mayor of Seattle even made a proclamation, not that he needs to do that because every Friday in Seattle and surrounding areas is Blue Friday, pretty much all year round. This week is different because it is the playoffs! Divisional The Boy was born 9 years ago this weekend.  It was a Friday the night before the Seahawks had their first play off game on a Saturday as the Number 1 seed.  So I missed that game obviously the boy was born at 11:56 Friday night. The Hubs was on the way to the game in the morning as I headed to the Pediatrician to have the newborn checked out.

Football has always been important. Really, football built this family. I met a guy with a cute smile in Washington State History Class. He was a football player I knew that even though it wasn't football season at the time because he wore his Letterman's jacket that boasted his football career and number. That jacket now hangs in my coat closet. We talked when we got back from spring break about who had the best spring break. For me I had the best because I was in a pageant and crowned Princess so that would mean I got to be on a float and wave to admiring little girls all summer during parades all over the state, I was stoked and it was as much fun as I expected it to be. He said his was the best because he had gone on vacation on a cruise, which was way cool as well. We compared stories and flirted a lot in that class and became good friends. 

At the time I was dating someone I thought I would marry so had no romantic interest in the boy with a cute smile but was fun to be flirty and get to know this guy. We became really good friends. Over the summer I went through a break up and decided to pick up the phone and call the cute smile boy and found out that he now had a girlfriend. We talked everyday, we were just friends. Then when school started we saw each other at school and met up at my locker (we had lockers in the same hall) everyday and chat. On Monday's he had the football scouting reports. I learned all the plays (sort of) that he needed to learn he taught them to me and explained what he was doing, it probably helped him learn the plays more than taught me football, it takes a while to learn that sport, but I looked forward to those Mondays and every other morning I saw him. 

Football started our relationship and we didn't even know it, we were just friends still he had a girlfriend who did not go to school with us and we had no romantic intentions at all, I was dating someone else too, kind of (talking on the phone seeing each other occasionally on weekends). Until one day The Hubs and I had our first kiss and I think at that moment we both knew, but didn't know, that there was magic there, a connection that would not be broken no matter how hard we tried. Even after a few recent years of fighting we still have that magic and that connection not even the worst fights or friends telling us we are too oil and water to stay together. We still are like magnets to one another. Sex is a big part of the glue that keeps us together but football is the other! Neither of us would even consider not going to the games or giving up season tickets. The best way to "get over a fight" (other than good sex or in times when we couldn't muster the desire or gumption to get through sex) is a ride on the ferry to a game! Get us in the atmosphere and it is nothing less than magical (I don't know if the magic of John Gottman can compare to the magic that football has on the Hubs and I).

So the Seahawks being in the playoffs is more than just a game, it is magic, on so many levels!! I met my husband, my life partner, sometimes my nemesis and created so many life memories with football. Playoffs gives of bonus weeks of football! The Hubs is my football other half! I have gone to a few games with out him and he without me and we always miss each other!  He's calling me "you would love it here, you should be here!!" when he has traveled to away games. He has even told the guys when they started planning a guys only Superbowl trip "Ruby is coming weather or not your wives/girlfriends come my wife is going." I know I may talk about this a lot but it is a big part of me and why my relationship exist and that is the connection we have. Football gives us something to do a place to go a subject to talk about! We all need these things in our relationship, you can't live on sex alone! As much fun as it is, there needs to be something that keeps you both entertained out of the sac.

Football is a thread the weaves my husband and I together. We all need that in our relationship. It doesn't have to be football, it can be another sport or music or activity. I was not too interested in football before I met the Hubs. I took the time to get into his world. So to those reading this struggling for a connection with your spouse, here are a few tips to football during the playoffs with you husband (or wife, not trying to be sexist that's just my POV so don't take it personal you can flip the genders on your own) try to work on this so you are ready for Superbowl:

• Don't stand in front of the TV while there is a play going on if you don't know what that means just stay out of in front of the TV 
• Ask you partner questions but if it is too complicated tell him he can explain later but let him watch the game first. Try not to talk while he is trying to here the referee's call or something important about the game.
• Try to save the questions for after the game while he is watching sports center or the "5th quarter" shows where they break down the game. Those shows are really helpful to learn what he is telling you and reinforce his information 
• Listen to the commentators, learn who you partners favorites are and follow those guys on twitter, watch their pod casts, and pay attention. (Start watching and learning now you have 3 weeks before the Superbowl to get Coached up Then when you watch the game with him next time after you've listened to his answers and the commentators you may know something and impress you man in the process)
• You have to show genuine interest. If you are not interested the other option is to be the hostess the party. 
• Cook the food 
• Keep beers full, grab fresh ones when you see empties (clean up as you go put the empties in the recycle, there may be more than you want to count at the end of the day)
• Have snacks ready before the game and at half time and make dinner after the game. (don't make him miss the end of the game for Sunday Dinner. Plan it after or have an early dinner before the game)
•  Make jello shots or treats in his favorite team colors research who they are playing and for sure avoid the enemy colors!
• Find fun theme drinks, or learn how to make Bloody Mary's and Whiskey and Cokes, because remember guys like what they like. (don't make him a fruity vodka drink when he is a beer and whiskey guy and if you do be prepared to drink it all and don't make him feel bad that you went through all that effort)
• Cute snacks for him to feed the boys who might be coming over. They will eat them and destroy the pretty stadium design you made with your cold cuts but they will remember your effort and appreciate it. 
• Bonus points if you keep it refilled and looking pretty but that is not necessary, neither is the pretty display they don't care if it is paper plate or foil containers just that there is food there
• At some point sit down and have a beer join in the celebration, he will thank you for and enjoy it and you will be one of the cool wives because you made the effort.
• Don't take it personal if he is in a bad mood or snaps at you if his team is loosing. (you may need to give him his some space or alone time) Playoffs are a big deal, it's not what you did or you party that is bad he is just sad and it's hard for guys to lose and/or watch their team play bad, get beat or get screwed by the refs...a little sexy something might help his mood like serving his next beer topless (just saying)
• If his team does lose, hold off on the "since you team lost my mom need....." topic don't bring up the loss for at least a day or two but know he will still want to watch the Superbowl so don't make plans for him

Just a few ideas.  Hope you enjoy playoffs!! Remember a little extra loving if his team loses may go a long way and the other side of it, celebration sex is the best!!!! Trust me, I know! Enjoy the playoffs. Find a connection to your spouse and love them through it and more! 

Go Hawks!

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