Enjoy This Moment!

Today is the day before Super Bowl 49! I saw a picture a friend who is there posted and it was a sea of 12s! A 12 is a loyal Seahawks fan, loud and proud. The 12th Man helping the team win. We are loyal to our team and we are loud! It is kind of a perfect science being a 12, Paul Allen created our stadium for the 12s to maximize the volume but as a 12 the science is being loud as loud as you can, you have to make your voice last until the end of the game. It is knowing when to be loud, loud on defense quiet on offense. University of Phoenix Stadium is going to be loud! Go Hawks!

How loyal are you to your team? I got chills, goose bumps and tears (I am always really emotional) when I saw all the 12s in AZ! Win or lose I am a true 12 a fan! I am raising 2 more true 12s as well! I am connected to this team and have used the Seahawks team and their philosophies to motivate my kids and myself! This team, this game is a big thing in life, speaks to me on so many levels. I am sort of a crazy super fan. I get motivation, relief from stress, happiness and joy from the Seahawks football team. I get a family day tomorrow with my husband kids and one of my favorite girl friends and her family tomorrow because of it! I am so thankful for that!

This morning the Girl and I made two Seahawks themed cakes for a fundraiser Auction for her dance team (Seahawks are really infused in our lives). The Boy and Hubs were at baseball tryouts and now we are watching Superbowl coverage for tomorrows game! So excited for our team they deserve a great win! Superbowl Sunday really should be a national holiday! It is more versatile than any other holiday we nationally recognize. We will be glued to the TV and love every second of it! Use your Seahawks voice a lot it will be 8 months until you get to do it again!What is your ritual for good luck our is Good Luck Sex, of course it is right?  No pre-game pep talk needed! We will be having our Superbowl good luck sex and enjoy it and we will use our Seahawks voices, maybe Grandma will take the kids tonight.... Go get you some!

I am going to help the Girl curl her hair for a performance can't wait to watch her dance tonight! (I am a true 12 when watching her dance to, she is so good.) What a great two days I get. I am going to stay in and enjoy this moment!

#GoHawks 

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Smells Like Procrastination

It is Super Bowl Blue Friday! It is the day before the day before The Super Bowl! My kids are decked out in their Blue Friday garb and we in the family are all in! I am so excited! I am also nervous but the nerves are getting overtaken with excitement. Which makes me scared! All the games I am nervous at we win.

It's time for the grind to payoff for the Seahawks.  For me it's time to grind too. Does anyone else do this on Fridays, you feel like it is time to grind out and clean the house. (Not that it ever gets done though.) I want to get in a get it spotless so that the Hubs can come home and be relaxed walking into a nice clean house, pretty wife quiet kids playing happily together...oh wait, I think that is an episode of Leave It To Beaver... But really I do want that to happen. Unfortunately I didn't get the house wife gene. I didn't get the drive to get up and clean, I got the drive to write about how inadequate I feel because I didn't get that gene. I got the gene to create fun and cute homemade and hand decorated cakes for birthdays and parties. I got the gene that says Fridays are for putting your feet up and going to lunch with your girlfriends. Basically got the gene that most of the time looks like sounds like and smells like procrastination. I am not proud of that but I do think that even with my procrastination gene I am a valuable member of this family and have a lot to contribute to this world. But I feel like it makes me less of a good mom, less of a good wife and not a role model worthy of writing a blog about Sex Love and Washing Clothes.

With that being said, I do write a blog titled Sex Love and Washing Clothes. I don't know how to write code or how to even get followers of my blog other than posting on Facebook and other social media outlets that my current real life friends read and laugh at and I am sure some have unfriended me and don't follow because I use words like Fuck It and talk about having sex with my husband as a way to make up for my inadequacies when it comes to house cleaning and procrastinating! I also write about having sex with my husband because it is fun. Maybe I write so that jaws will drop and the innocent straight laced good girl you once knew has sex and likes it, a lot! And we all know how mundane house keeping can be. With kids from the time when they are in diapers to preteens/tweens (what is the proper word for 9 and 10 now I am just too old to know) each milestone comes with a celebration and a harsh reality that it is a new challenge. Some milestones/stages are more time consuming, labor intensive and less expensive (actually nothing is less expensive things keep getting more expensive) but they are all challenging and we moms will always wonder if we are making the right decision.

Yesterday I shared a photo on Facebook (follow my Facebook page Sex Love and Washing Clothes) was a triangle on each point was one thing: Sanity, Happy kids, Clean House...you probably could say Happy family instead of kids. But it seems true and even sometimes it seems like there is only one option. A mom runs the family and, at least in this family, if I am stressed out that stresses out everyone else. If Hubs is stressed out it stresses me out but I feel like I have to hold it together for him because I do. I think, he has much more reasons to be stressed. After all he is the provider. If anything happened that made it so he couldn't provide he must think about that "what the fuck would my family do if I got hurt or lost my job?" That has got to be a load on his mind, so for me the stress of the kids not being able to go to the cool kids sleepover is not that big of a deal in the "big picture" but being the mom your heart hurts for your kids and you try to do both. Help the hubs and let the kids have their thing and clean your house and stay sane. But in reality, again....you or them cannot have it all!!!! That reality is a hard one to swallow.

Do you ever feel like you must choose who to make happy? That is a harsh way to say it, please don't get offended by this folks. And don't give me the you always have to take your kids side. Strong well grounded adults are grown from kids who don't always get there way and who realize there are sacrifices to be made in life. You cannot always fix things with ice cream and cookies. Sometimes you just have to be sad! Those are the days I choose to drink my water in a pretty wine glass! Even though I would love to fix my sadness with wine or chocolate (see yesterdays post about that) Sometimes I just have to decide somethings gotta give. Everyone has to make those decisions!

How did Super Bowl Blue Friday post digress to this! Here's my correlation, Russell Wilson is a Super Bowl winning Quarter Back in his 3rd year in the league. Many of the players from that winning team last year went late in the draft or were not selected in the draft, even Marshawn Lynch was rejected (sort of) from Buffalo they didn't want him and many people criticized the Seahawks for getting him with his broken leg injury and all. These players had to make sacrifices. It may be easy for all of us normal people, living paycheck to paycheck watching our fun money go to dance classes and sports cleats instead of weekends away with our lovers, to say that it is easy for them to make these sacrifices but bottom line is....they still have to make them. Many of these players spend their whole lives on the VMAC Campus. Watching Films, working out practicing. They sacrifice their family time, their lives for football, a game. Yes their jobs but it is still sacrifice the same way The Hubs sacrifices his time and his life for providing for this family, coaching athletics for The Boy and paying for the Girl (and me) to do dance. It is a choice that I know my husband is proud of, it is not glamorous but one day (he may not know it yet) he will look back and be proud that he did it. Only the toughest get to the Super Bowl. The Seahawks have put in the work. They have not seen their families as much as they could have. I bet many have decided to not start families or have an agreement with their family that time together will come after football. My point is we all have choices to make right now in the thick of it, grinding out every week it may suck but that win, which for us looks much less glamorous . It may be graduation day or may be watching our kids hoist the Lombardi trophy or maybe a less known trophy even a 2nd place Trophy, or get a scholarship or a big Little League win. That is when it will be worth it!

So keep grinding folks. We have Super Bowl moments everyday. I can't tell you how proud I am of my son when he gets a first down, or even just gets to touch the ball, and of my husband when his team "Does it" Whatever "it" may be. Sometimes the win is the First Down, depending on the team and the players. Truth is we don't coach a lot of Superbowl winners at the Pee Wee level but we celebrate their greatness. I sit here with tears in eyes of pride of how my husband in his first football season wrangled a group of 6-7 year olds their first season of tackle football and they actually knew the game! He not only taught those kids how to play and trust each-other he had to teach the parents how to trust him and that came in him doing what he does and trusting himself. The kids knew their roles on the football field he had faith in those kids. He sacrificed his golf night (as he has ever since) and his guy time playing pool with the boys. I probably shouldn't say this and I may get in trouble but I can tell that lately those sacrifices are wearing on him but what does he do....he goes out every season and does it again. I know one day he will sit back and be able to see his grind paid off and those were his Superbowl winning moments. He will not sit back and say "man I miss those golf nights, too bad" as much as he will be proud of the kids he has molded (both ours and those he coaches). He will remember big plays, but mostly I hope he remembers those moments of first time he got guys on his team to see their full potential. I know he will watch with pride as kids he coached first get their letters of acceptance or even sign commitments to colleges and some will scholarship and maybe just maybe he will see one of his athletes make it big! But that is not why he does it. He loves it and is incapable of not teaching these kids to reach their full potential by always doing their best, he does that by he himself putting 100% plus some into it. I am sure it is just like many of the Seahawks, Russell Wilson, Richard Sherman, Earl Thomas and Marshawn Lynch, to name a few, they don't know how not to do their best and put 100% plus some into everything they commit to! So, he will get up and go to work early so he can come home early enough work with the Boy getting ready for try outs, yes he will complain, but he will do it and that makes him a good dad and a good coach.

I will stop taking it personal and I will let him bitch, just like he lets me bitch about not being able to eat as much chocolate as I want. I need a way to learn to communicate that I understand him. Today, I will go clean this house so that he doesn't come home to chaos (well in the form of clutter scattered around the house Chaos is my middle name I think). He has said to me that coming home to a clean house helps to feel less chaotic. I know it is not my responsibility to manage my husbands or anyone else's emotions, but as a mom and wife I am sure you understand how we take all this on, maybe you can't that is just me. I choose to sacrifice my brain function to focus on this messiness and then I get to play (Super Bowl Cake decorating tonight). I will go make my sacrifice today, then later.....maybe a little mini vacation in the bedroom (since a real one is kind of out of the question right now) which will be much nicer to set the mood with less clutter! I am going to take a moment to take care of my husband as I know he is needing it. I appreciate all he does for this family and i know he appreciates my. Dear Hubs, I love you! You have done so much for me and that allows me to be the kind of wife I am for you. You have said I am the best thing that has happened to you and I want you to know I can only be as good as I am because I have you right behind me helping me and supporting me though! I love you with all my heart and I pray that you don't get upset at me for exposing you here today! I am so proud of all you do and I am happy you are on my team!!! ~Love Me.

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#GoHawks

Turnover Thursday, Take Control!

Happy Blue Thursday! It's Turnover Thursday! Today I weighed myself and weighed in in the 160's!!!  First time in 2015 and only the second time in a very long time! Yay me! I don't like to share my weight but being that I share everything else why not? This last week has been a bit rough with "that time of the month" and a lot of cheat bites of cake or frosting or skittles! With the Seahawks being in the Super Bowl this weekend, Hell, just the Super Bowl parties in general makes it tough. In our culture, we celebrate everything with food. We also commiserate with food and we fill our boredom with food and procrastinate with food. We make memories with food. That, especially memory making, is not all bad. It started when our country was discovered during the first Thanksgiving ever! And let's not forget the Thanksgiving Celebration this year with Russell Wilson and Richard Sherman on the 50 yard line at Levi Stadium after the big win on Thanksgiving Day. I struggle with having a good relationship with food. The word moderation used to be my motto but then I realized I don't know how to exercise moderation in terms of food. So as you readers of this blog know I have restricted my food intake this month going no carbs and also doing "Dry January" both of those thing contributed to my weight loss of about 8 pounds so far this month.

What's a worry for me (yes I know worry is bad and serves no purpose) is that this weekend Sunday is Super Bowl Sunday and Februaury 1. The end of Dry January and No Carb January. My Seahawks are participating in this game (and I am super stoked and excited, as you all know already #GoHawks!) I am worried about tanking my weight loss track, I am worried if I eat too much I will not stay in the 160s and I am worried that if I don't eat this weekend I will never get to touch a Nacho ever again! OK, I know that sounds stupid but I think that is one thing that keeps me eating sometimes. (Again, yes this is very illogical but honestly it is a subconscious thing that people with bad relationships with food struggle with) I eat like I will never get another snack or treat again. If I could convince myself that food will always be there I don't need to stock up for the winter (or for the term of the diet) then I may have an easier time saying, no. And the fact that it will be February, I won't have Dry January to fall back on. Not that I can't avoid it just because, but this girl struggles telling herself no sometimes. But I will continue to go as I have during the last three months that I have lost about 25 pounds. I would like to be down 10-20 pounds more which would put me at my wedding weight I think I may be happy just being in the 150s.... But who knows I am the type who is never happy with the way I look. I will continue to work on that! I am proud of myself for where I am at now and almost enjoying clothes again!

Body image and self confidence is a subject that all women I believe struggle with! Confidence and Self Esteem, both things I want my daughter to learn better than I did. I was never taught that, my mom was never confident. I was not modeled any of that by my mom! (and The Girls is already on a better track than I was at her age thanks to dance and her ability to love herself and be proud of who she is I will take a bit of that credit too, but it probably comes from the Hubs) As I draw a connection to my blog post today to The Seahawks, those guys have confidence! They are good and they know it and they don't doubt themselves. They are good now but they like me, were not born good at football, they trained and learned and prepared and practiced and they continue to practice! They set themselves up with a game plan and don't waver and they bring home the win. I have planned and prepared meals, set aside time for workouts and have tried these last few months to prepare to be healthy and fit into my jeans! I will continue to do the same. My plan for this weekend to not tank my weight loss journey (which by the way when I get to my goal I will be getting a Seahawks inspired tattoo). My plan is to be prepared, to use my Emeals subscription to plan my meals and scheduling exercise. I am going to continue to use my Seahawks blinged out travel cup to get in enough water and when needed I will add and extra run in to intercept any extra calories trying to attaching to my hips (or something like that).

Bottom line I will use the model I see from the Seahawks to have a game plan  for success (meal planning, exercise, hydration) and I will tackle it and when I am down or get sacked I will get back up and keep my focus as this game and go for it! It is not over until it's over and I will be the Champion that I know I am! I can't wait for the game this weekend the Seahawks are going to play hard and do their best and, I think, beat the Pats! Even cheating teams, eh hem Patriots, will see this team is no joke! I don't know who will win, I hope it is the Seahawks, but I do know that my team will come out playing hard, hitting hard and bring 100% effort all the way to the end, I don't think anyone can beat them when they come out playing hard for each other and stay focused. So I will do the same I will work hard for me, no one (no food) can beat me when I go hard and stay focused! 

What part of your life do you need to take control over and stay focused to achieve? Game Plan, train and prepare to win! Always Compete! Today is Turnover Thursday, go get what is yours take it from the enemy and claim your prize, LOB style! Earn everything, you know you can! You deserve to take care of you! But if you need motivation look at your team around you (your family) and do it for them! They deserve you to be the best you, for them!

#Everyday2015

Go Hawks!

Competition Wednessday...Go Score

Happy Hump Day everyone! On Wednesdays I usually try to have a "Hump Day Challenge" or a topic on Sex (some weeks it comes up more than others). I am kind of struggling drawing a Seahawks and/or a Superbowl reference here to! It is Hump Day of Super Bowl Week! The Seahawks are in the Super Bowl prepping for a repeat as we speak. It is competition Wednesday! How can I draw the Seahawks, Super Bowl, Hump Day, Competition Wednesday and Sex together without it feeling like a stretch?..... I'll try, here goes nothing

How are we all doing on the #Everyday2015? Is anyone still in it? Have you done "it" 28 times this year? Well, I have! Sometimes I feel full of shit for writing this blog. When the Hubs and I are in daily life of normal family type things that are less than glamorous and we seem or feel in that moment less than happy, it is tough to spend any more moments trying to please the man (or him trying to please me.) We have done it though. We powered through a few nights and came out the other side and guess what, it made us closer and we are happier for it. We get into spats or mini sometimes major arguments that start because of thoughts like this: "I know I am working harder than he is because I am in here the kitchen cooking and cleaning after a day of grocery shopping, organizing, volunteering at school and then going to get the kid from practice getting their homework done and off to bed and finally at 9 or so I can sit down next to him and relax"...all the while he is thinking he is working harder than I am because he is getting up early going to work everyday then coming home and fixing the broken washing machine and then going to take a kid to practice and then finally at 9 he can finally sit down... Our stories are not very different. In actuality they sound very similar right? Well we have to stop being selfish! Both stories are right but why do we find the need to compare how hard we are working against how hard our spouse it working! I guarantee you are both putting in the same amount of effort. Maybe not on a physical level and maybe not completely even across the board everyday but you are both giving your lives 100% to your family in one way or another!

Let's take an example of our team! The Seahawks started out the season 3-3 and then went to 6-4. That was right about when analyst and band wagoners were counting them out. It was also right about when the team leaders got everyone together for a player only meeting to recommit to each other. They started playing the game FOR each other! Not just for themselves, not even for the win, for the love of their brothers. We all know how that ended(Superbowl baby!). When you stop looking over your shoulder and comparing what you are doing vs what your teammates are doing you. You get better. You can't control them anyway. You can only control you. If you know your teammate is giving 100% every play you don't want to be the guy to take a play off and give up a big play. You would let him down. You want to be the guy following the play through so you can help block or catch a tipped ball. When a teammate needs help you help him out you do it because you know he would do it for you! That is when you become unstoppable. That is why I believe the Seahawks will win the Super Bowl! The Defense has the back of the offense. Those players play for each other each play individually for the rest of the team. They have short memories of dropped balls and mistakes they are always looking at the goal that is a team win! They do not point fingers at the guy who dropped a ball or missed a tackle. They maintain trust, that when needed, that same teammate will come up big! Seahawks will win as team. We as couples and families need to win as a team

At sometimes during this month of Sex, Love and Washing Clothes I have thought that this was the answer to true happiness. It has not been bad for my life but it also has not been a magical pill, we still have to the work,  just like we did before! When the Hubs and I start keeping tally of what you did for me or what I did for you things go bad. As I am sure that happens to you too! We all need to remember we are on the same team. Yes right now I may be dropping the ball a little more than you or maybe you feel your spouse doesn't help out enough. Maybe your spouse is waiting for you to ask. It probably is miss communication and sometimes if you are like us trying to talk about that miss communication only creates more miss communication. Show your spouse you care about what is bothering them.

"In every complaint there is a deep personal longing." ~John Gottman 

Pay attention to your partners complaints what is there deep personal longing that they are needing to communicate but can't figure out how. Maybe they need more connection, maybe they are overworked at the office, maybe stressed about finances or maybe they just don't feel like you pay attention to them enough. Try to talk to them but also if you listen to their complaints (don't take them personal it's about them not you) and see if there is a way you can help come to a solution, ask them if there is a solution they are looking for. One solution may just be to have someone who will let them complain or even complain about the same thing along with them. That may help to bridge the divide that daily life stress causes!

My favorite advice: When in doubt have sex. Grab some erotic pictures off the internet, read erotic stories or make up your own with your mate. Get out the sex dice and put aside your differences and have a crazy fun romp. If time is an issue, go to bed earlier or invest in a lock for your door crank up the TV to muffle the noise and tell your kids you are off work for the night! But get in that positive touch somehow! Remember the person you fell in love with. The overworked under paid and overextended dad of your kids might not be too attractive right now but put him in a room with no distractions and give him your 100% naked body attention you may remember what the real Bare Necessities of life really are! So will he,hopefully he can turn off his brain for it, don't take it personal just give him time and be patient.

Go get you some tonight folks! Be in this moment like it is a 2 minute drill at the end of the 4th Quarter for the win of the Superbowl! It is competition Wednesday, make it competition worthy. If you want to compete with your spouse here are the parameters who can make the other one cringe with excitement better faster and longer hold it there for you to catch up and together let it go for a Score!
Go Hawks! Go Families! Go Couples!

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Let Beast Mode Find You

Happy Tuesday! Keeping with my Super Bowl/Football type theme week since it is Superbowl week I am going to write on a quote from Marshawn Lynch that he made at a Skittles Press conference:

 "You don't feel in Beast Mode. It feels you."

If you are not a fan of football or the Seahawks Beast Mode is Marshawn Lynch when he runs the football he goes Beast Mode. He has a way of stiff arming opposing players and breaking through the traffic of a defense like he is inhuman...hence Beast Mode. In his first Beast Quake, back on January 8, 2011 in the divisional playoffs vs the New Orleans Saints, who were that year the defending Champs, he ran for a 67 yard touchdown that registered on the rector scale. He created a real earthquake we call it the Beast Quake. Marshawn gets in a zone when he is in Beast Mode and he does not stop until he finds the end zone. My fave is when he is in Beast Mode but right before he crosses the goal line he stops to turn and look at the team who couldn't defeat him and then just walks into the end zone for the score! Gives me chills and a smile just thinking of it. It seems he's been getting a TD like that at least once a game. Ever since the first Beast quake, they have been placing more and more seismometers around the stadium to monitor the Beast quakes, we even had a Sherm quake in play-offs this year when Richard Sherman got an interception. In the Arizona Cardinals game in AZ during the regular season Marshawn Lynch had another Beast quake type run where he broke multiple tackles and made it to the end zone and he made his famous HMD leap landing on his back flying through the air (The Boys favorite signature move, he has replicated it multiple times landing on my couch, for the record it was minus the infamous crotch grab before all the media and fines from the NFL, my son now includes the crotch grab. (BTW Thanks NFL for drawing attention to something that did not need to be drawn attention to nor should you fine Marshawn Lynch for that and should not fine him for it any time in the future) and my son's obsession with the Beast Quake leap was revived after the Cardinals game this year.) Beast Mode pep talks after a loss in wrestling gets my son through losses and onto the next match.

So now that we are familiar with Beast Mode and what it is let's talk about it. In a press conference for Skittles when asked, "what does Beast Mode feel like?" Marshawn Lynch said "You don't feel in Beast Mode. It feels you." Let that set in.... You don't feel in Beast Mode, it feels you. Saying it's not you, you can't do it alone. Some may use "Let go and Let God" You can't strum up to put it out there you have to let go and let Beast Mode over take you. I think that there is a "Beast Mode" in each of us. We don't have as big of stage as Marshawn Lynch, and I hope he doesn't take offense to me using this analogy. Don't get me wrong Beast Mode is larger than life, larger than football, larger than the Seahawks and larger than Marshawn Lynch. Each individuals Beast Mode can come out anywhere you just have to let it out. In order to let Beast Mode take over you have to not be afraid to make a mistake. Fear holds you back. Beast Mode comes out of a dark cavern in your sole, it hides there behind fear and worry and even behind arrogance. It is in a place where not many people see but one day you are called to unleash the Beast, like Lynch, and if you let allow it,  you will score that proverbial epic touchdown. He (along with the whole teammates) took a team that had a loosing record against the champs and gave the 12s inspiration and life and excitement. This one touchdown, maybe didn't ignite the 12s flame but it sure put gas on the fire and created the current inferno that are the 12s and has not stopped ever since. Since then, we have a Superbowl Championship and millions of Fans wearing Blue and Green tossing Skittles to prove it. Beast Mode found the 12s.

In our daily lives lets work to find our Beast Mode, or let it find you! There is a part of you that you have to let go of. In order to be great you have to let go of the fear that you are not. That fear that tells you you are going to mess up. Go find your Beast Mode. Allow yourself to find that balance of focus and letting go and doing your best without fear of messing up. That is my struggle, I am always afraid or not being great, or afraid of making a fool out of myself. If you want that great job apply for it! How many people never even try for something because they are afraid they won't make it? What if Micheal Jordan decided not to try out for the Basketball Team again because he thought he wasn't going to make it again? Don't do that! Put it out the in the universe that you want it! That, just saying it out loud, in an of itself is powerful! Take the steps to get the promotion or the job or the spot on the team. What if Marshawn Lynch was afraid of being injured again, or played scared?

Marshawn Lynch always goes hard is always ready for Beast Mode to find him. He doesn't like to talk to the media and sadly he gets fined for it, but when he does he has something great and motivational to say. Those quotes have helped me help motivate my son in a few pep talks. And many others as have been inspired as well. To my son I say "what happens when Lynch fumbles?"...He goes out and goes Beast Mode  until he scores...he is "all about that action boss" So I tell my son, go out there, you have more work to do "show me that action boss!" No matter what, he gets his Otter Pop during half time and snack at the end of the day and a big proud mommy hug no matter what the result. The boy can that boy unleash the Beast, we are in wrestling season right now and he would scare me to go against on that mat, I wouldn't want to face him. In football season he may be one of the smallest but is not afraid to cover the biggest kid! (Marshawn's mom gave him Skittles, I do Otter Pops, my boy also gets skittles when he scores a touchdown. And sorry a little bit of a proud mommy rant)

I am going to let go of  timid and scared Ruby today and search for and be open for Beast Mode Ruby today and everyday! That Championship mind set!

I am looking forward to media day today at the Superbowl! Can't wait to see my team bring it on this Sunday and watch Beast Mode! When you watch the Super Bowl look for that signature Beast Mode run the the walk into the end zone. Maybe we will even get to see a Beast Quake touchdown. But the crotch grab will have to be handled by the fans since the NFL thinks it's so vulgar! We will have a family "Grab You Junk Photo" in support of Beast Mode!

I am going to get my Beast Mode on today!

#Everyday2015

Mom's Seahawks Player Personality

Edit note: I used Stay at Home Mom reference for this but really it can be used synonymously with mom. I believe it is not only relevent to stay at home mom's all moms I believe possess all of these qualities working, part time full time and stay at homers!
Today is Monday of Super Bowl 49 Week. My Seattle Seahawks are competing for the title of Super Bowl 49 Champions! One thing we hear Pete Carroll and the team use a lot is "Always Compete". In football a lot of cliches and metaphors are used. And more are made each day! I am going to take a championship attitude to everything I do this week. It is easy to give a football competition metaphor to another sport but I am going to try to apply it to Sex Love and Washing Clothes this week. I am going to start with the "Washing clothes" in this blog.

My focus today is to get my Master Bedroom done, purge old stuff, reorganize the stuff that stays and make it easily manageable to stay that way. Having a Championship Mindset for this task is going to start with preparation. This task of cleaning, purging and reoraganizing is like practice and weight training and game planning. The cleaning and purging part is the strength training. Repitition that is to strengthen for the purpose of getting stronger and faster. Training in the sport specificity but not specifically playing the actual game or route running or anything. The Reorganizing is game planning and preactice reps. Making sure things have a home and there is easy access to it and it looks good to the eye. Daily living and putting things away when finished using it and not throwing clothes on the floor and keep it up is the game part. The Championship part. To be a Champion here my room will have to stay clean and organized! Everyday for a stay at home mom her game is putting things away dusting off the tops of the shelf and vacuuming up the dirt brought in from the family. 

Let's break down the players (Seahawks) on the field in relation to Stay at Home Moms

A SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) is like the linemen on the field. (Shout out to Max Unger, Justin Britt Russel Okung some of my faves) She does the dirty work so the QB and WR can make an amazing catch and throw and celebrate the touchdown in the Endzone. Meanwhile mom, or lineman in this metaphor, lay on their back recovering from exhaustion as the touchdown dance is celebrated (Dear Linemen, please don't get offended in the metaphor. You know those rough grinding days that the opponents really make you work. I know you condition and work hard and many times are right the in celebration but those rough days, same to you moms you know those days you just want to lay down on the floor in the waiting room for the well child check up, do we always have to be vertical?)

Now SAHMs don't get offended by me calling you a lineman. Let me add some context for you non football SAHMs out there. Lineman protect the Quarterback. They make holes for Lynch and Turbin to run through to score. Without the lineman (the bigs guys who line up kind of squatted in a three point stace over the ball) our skill players (quaterbacks, wide recievers and running backs) could  not excite us with their skills! Linemen grind, I bet they got to work on Sundays knowing they might get their ass kicked that day and/or they will give an ass kicking! The way I know that I will today when I go into my master bedroom but I will not stop until I too give one! Marshawn is going to be scoring and skittle will be flying! And for your defensive linemen type, there will be some blockers on their back and that QB of clutter (my Tom Brady today) will be sacked at lest 4 times today might even tip one of his deflated balls.

Or maybe we stay at home moms are like the LOB, the Legion of Boom. They steal the ball from the hot shot QB of the bad guy team in the form of interceptions and sometimes they even get a pick six (which is where they score a touchdown). Or they strip the ball from the hands of the ball carrier. They deliver the big hit like Kam Chancellor did against Vernon Davis on National TV a couple seasons ago (had to post a link of this hit). Or they tip the ball away from a would we be game winning touchdown like Richard Sherman did in the 2013 NFC Championship game vs Crabtree the infamous Mediocre receiver. Or we are like Earl Thomas who sits back and waits for his oppurtunity to pounce on the offensive player with the ball. Even with a dislocated Shoulder in this years NFC Championship Game he laid a hit on Eddy Lacey to hold him out of the Endzone! (Earl Thomas is my favorite player!) He is so focused so calculated so explosive, so good! Mom's are an important role in families, they protect their family the way the LOB protects the Seahawks Endzone. We Like the LOB, always know when and where to come up with a big hit, pick six, or a strip in the form or a great snack, a fun party game to keep kids from killing each other, running in that library book just in time for your kid to check out a new one and flashing the headlights at the bus driver so your kid doesn't miss the bus, that finishing move with the husband (wink wink) we know how to come up with the big plays when all seems down.

SAHMs also can relate to how Russell Wilson and company run the offense. Well calculated game plan flawless execution. Always ready for what comes next never surprised and when there is something that doesn't work there is no panic. He can rely on the Beast of Marshawn Lynch to run it into the Endzone or use him in a Play Action and get the job done with a QB sneak. Mom's, just like Russel Wilson, know how to use our assets we delegate but are not afraid of keeping it ourselves and running for the first down or into the Endzone for the touchdown. 

There is a mom metaphor to Luke Willson the Tight End as well. He lines up on the line and protects the QB for pass plays but he is also available to run up the seam for the score! I love the Wilson to Willso play it is just so fun to say. We mom's can make the plays like Russell Wilson but can also be versitile like a Tight End needs to be. Sometimes they have the QBs Back in a blocking sceme and others they are the featured receiver, just don't drop the ball and know your route, which all mom's are great at!

We moms also relate to Marshawn Lynch pretty well. He is "All about that Action" as are we. It doesn't matter how it gets done it just needs to get done and if you get in our way especially if you get in our kids way we will stiff arm you, knock you down and then walk into the Endzone that is ours to score the touchdown aka get shit done! But don't ask us how we did it. We don't want to tell you how we got the teacher to see things our way or how we made the right moves to get things just perfect for that birthday party we just did it. Let our body of work speak for itself and get the fuck out of our way! (Next time you wife grabs her crotch as she finishes dinner cleans the kitchen and folds the laundry in time for her favorite show, don't punish her just give her some Skittles)

Maybe we are like the Linebackers Bruce Irvin and KJ Wright they come up big with a sack at the right time. (the Hubs was a line backer too.) The linebacker is like the QB of the defense. Calling in defensive plays making sure everyone is where they need to be (at least that's how the Hubs team is) They also are the ones who get to blitz and sack the opposing QB. The Seahawks LBs are kind of quiet but will let you know who is there when it needs recognizing.

SAHMs are also a little like Micheal Bennett in that we are not afraid to get on a bike and go for a Joyride. But for us that might look like swinging on the swing at the park, yes we know it's for the kids but why not take a moment for some fun when we deserve it!

But realistically we probably fit the best with Pete Carrol...He manages all these personalities. He taught and instilled the Championship mind set in these players. These players love Pete Carrol and it shows has been able to reach the players who have been well off from the time of birth to those rose from the ghettos. He can hang with Marshawn and Russell and have them on the same page. who would have thought or expected that from the 2nd oldest coach in the league? We moms are similar, we can get the dancer and the wrestler working together on chores after school and then get them to their respective practices on time. We know what to feed the Boy before practice to get him to focus and we know that the Girl needs the right water bottle in order to stay hydrated. We know what it takes to make our family Champions and we do it in our own way and will continue our way no matter what the experts say! Stay your course. Pete Carrol has kept the Seahawks schedule the same as he did last year when they won. We mom's take control of our families in the schedules, to feeding, the taxi-ing, the game planning. We do it all we have to have confidence and know our team and make it work for them! This is where we shine, but not really "shine" we don't get a whole lot of the credit but we are the Pete Carols of our family
And we mom's have our days (some more than others) Just like Wide Reciever Jermaine Kearse and "angry Doug Baldwin" did in the NFC Championship game. Jermaine had a few dropped passes, a tip (maybe 2) that resulted in an intercetption. Despite his best efforts he kept coming up short. But he never gave up and Russle never gave up on him. He and Doug Baldwin kept going out the and grinding and working. Doug caught a long pass to give the drive momentum and in the end Jermaine caught the winning touchdown. We mom's have our rough days and dropped balls. We gotta keep on trying  keep grindingand the family has got to keep on trusting and we will win the game for them! Never give up moms! Honestly I don't think we know how (and by we I mean we mom's and The Seahawks)

What is your SAHM player personality? Do you have another suggestion? I would be curious if the players would agree with me and my SAHM metaphors. It was fun writing, hope you like it and get inspired this SuperBowl Week!  Go Hawks!

Send in the troups if you don't hear from me off to tackle the Master Bedroom!!!

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There Are No Replays In Real Life, Don't Miss That Amazing Catch!

It is Sunday!!! Pro Bowl game is on the TV right now it is 5:30 PM! I haven't got a chance to write yet. 

I made an awesome breakfast, eggs, sausage and cheese scramble and hash-brown, sausage and cheese skillet. Well for the kids it was lunch...brunch. Then as I cleaned up the kitchen then the Hubs was working on the Hot Tub he asked for my assistance and I had to run an hour away for a part for it only to realize that it was closed despite what the website and their message on their phone says. So the Girl (who rode with me)  and I went to Dania, my favorite and now her favorite, furniture store. So it didn't feel like a wasted hour long drive...The Boy and the Hubs used the time to go throw the ball around and get ready for Little League try outs next week. As I was driving I was thinking about the fact that I hadn't written to my blog yet and that I will be home in time to watch the Pro Bowl with the fam (we are a true football family) and make dinner and do normal everyday mom-ish type things. I was feeling like the whole writing thing today might not happen because I don't want to miss out on time with the family.

As I sit here writing I pause to laugh, The boy just told the Hubs not to use Viagra because he (referring to himself) could get skin cancer...WTF? Where the hell did that come from? I had to stop to laugh and giggle. I asked why he had some reason that didn't make sense but just a little hilarity that goes on here in the Earl household.

So what I want to say it that it is important to me to be present in my household. Not just home, not just in the same room. (We are now giggling about the funniness of these Mathew McConaughey commercials). Being present is not sitting in a room on your phone while at your child's baseball practice. Don't give me the "I am at my kids practice everyday" as if it takes so much effort to sit and scroll through Facebook while you sit in the car and watch my husband teach your kid the nuances of the game. Not that I think you have to be there, but that is not being present. I am not being super present with my family right now, my real time side notes are a little examples of what I might be missing and half an attempt to try to make them think I am being present.

Basically to be present you have to put your phone down (insert other applicable electronic device here as in Ipad, laptop or even your knitting) and your head up. I just missed an amazing catch by Antonio Brown in Triple coverage, good thing for replay I can look up and watch it, it was a great catch, however I did missed the hit on Andrew Luck as he played. There are no replays in real life. If you miss your son's base hit or home run because your head was buried in your phone or you were chatting with another mom (guilty), you will not get that moment back. ...(Pause another McConaughey commercial).... If not present I wouldn't be able to watch my son crack up about it, not because he knows what he is saying because his dad is making fun of it and The Boy thinks it's funny and wants to make his dad laugh more. Sometimes it is a good release to take that moment to have the mom to mom chat and get a vent out or let another mom vent. But seriously Facebook Twitter and this blog even can wait until later it is digital don't miss your families moments!

So put your phone down, and pick your head up. Make eye contact with your family (and even the cashier at the grocery store) watch the game, don't miss you daughters dance for Facebook! Read my blog,,,everyday because I write it everyday but don't miss family time for it! And remember, that amazing things happen and will still happened even if you don't have a selfie to prove it! I am going to watch this game and get dinner going too. The Boy says "Go Team Carter" 

BTW The Hubs will tell me I need to practice what I preach so I am picking my head up! We probably all need a bit of a reminder to be present in every moment. Let's do this people!

One Week until Super Bowl 49... GoHawks!
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15 Minute Crazy Writing: Boys Will Be Boys

Start 1:15pm:
So yesterday I wrote I want to write about crazy shit! Well today I am doing crazy shit with my writing. And that is I am trying to finish my writing in 15 minutes. Last night was The Boy's Birthday Sleepover. So that is the Crazy Shit I am writing about.

Now, I love my Boy, and the friends he had over, however I am so not made for boy sleepovers. They were crazy! Running around crazy like. Everything turned into a wrestling match. Even a soak in the Hot Tub I look out and they are tackling each other trying to hold their heads underwater. I went out and said "don't horse around" and knowing that 9 year old boys need a little more detail than that I said "No tackling or dunking" and then look out 5 minutes later and they were tackling so I go out again and they said, "we were wrestling not tackling" Oh my word.... I felt like the mom constantly telling them what not to do.

The Boy has had sleepovers before but not with more than 2 kids and usually it is with Sports team kids, and 2 out of 3 sports the Boy plays The Hubs coaches. So the kids have a little more respect and understanding, or at least they know how to listen and know what Coach expects. These boys were a bit of a challenge. Not bad kids by any means, kids who seemed to be trying the rules a little. To see how far they could go, well, in this house we have a lot of rules! We decided a long time ago that rules will stay the same whether friends are here or not! So, most friends have figured that out, but note to self, don't have a sleepover with friends who have not, or who have not been over to the house by themselves. In the future rule will be they have to have been here for a one on one sleep over first or be an extreme circumstance. That way they know what to expect and then they won't come in and try to rial up the crowd against the rules. Not that that happened on purpose it just seemed like it.

"You know what your worst enemy is, it's your big mouth" a quote I just heard over the TV, Hubs and The Boy are watching Patton. This statement is so true. The Boy and a few of his friends should have learned this by now but they are still working on it. This weekend's sleepover involved quite a few big mouths. You know the type someone who ALWAYS wins Madden at home and are good football players who have played in the past but stopped, then you realize they may have never touched a football.

It was a mini testosterone fest, basically. It reminded me of a stories from guys weekends and bachelor party repeats that I have heard. Here is one from a few years ago, now this is what I can piece together it should make for good reading but I cannot guarantee the validity or truth since I was not there and we all know how boys like to embellish stories and omit or add a few details here and there. It is pretty fair to say most testosterone fests go like this or similarities run strong at least. Friend J starts trash talking Friend K and after a few words back and forth Friend K takes it personal and gets his feelings hurt and charges Friend J and ends up crashing through the mirrored closet door of Friend J's hotel room (who btw got out of paying for it with a BS story about being drunk need to take a poop and tripping while trying to maneuver around the bed, hotel said no problem sir, we just want to make sure you are not hurt..aka they didn't want to get sued") {running out of writing time} Bottom line is, a 9 year old sleep over is nothing different from a bachelor party except there are chaperons and the 9 year old are just learning to try to find a place for their testosterone filled selves to fit in. And with that will come some growing pains and mini probably some major fights. I need to channel The Hub/s Best friend's dad who used to make the Hubs and his best friend always shake on it and be friends. Boys recover from these things pretty easy though right. Lessons learned this weekend all in all it was fun!
Time's up...now I get to spell check right?....
P.S.  I am so glad that this house will be kid free tonight We all know I need it!!!
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Writing done at 1:31pm Editing done at 1:47

I Want To Write About the Crazy Shit!

Happy Blue Friday!!!!  Go Seahawks (yes I know it is a bye week but for Superbowl Baby!!!)

I am really enjoying my 2015 blogging adventure! I have been doing a bit of trying to sound intelligent and knowledgeable and like I know what I am talking about but I sometimes I feel like I am full of shit! I just watched an episode of Girls Guide To Divorce (which I have never watched and never wanted to kind of because I don't want it to be foreshadowing since I am writing this blog about marriage and love and sex and Abby is writer who wrote a marriage book and then got a divorce don't know much more about the story) but something struck me of what Abby said. She pitched an idea(I think for a new book I only caught about 45 minutes of this particular episode) to her friend and her friend laughed at her and then Abby went to .... "I am full of shit" and the friend said YES! Go with that! She did. Abby's pitch was basically "I want to write about crazy shit" and the people in the board room loved it.

When I started this blog I wanted to write about my marriage that has been held together with some crazy shit! The hubs and I get told a lot that we are a perfect couple, truth is I think they are right, but we are sometimes the perfect couple storm too. We like to socialize together. We rarely go out on Girls Night Out or Guys Night Out, actually the Hubs is usually invited to Girls Night Out because he will drive me home for one, and he is a lot of fun to hang with, the girls like him around he makes us laugh and he will even chat with the girls about girl stuff and he is the type of guy who is not afraid to go to the store just to buy Tampons for me. I always crash, and by crash I mean I am invited to, Guys Night Out because I am kind of one of the guys too. I like football I know football just as much or more than the guys I was even a proxy Fantasy Football drafter when one buddy was TDY for work. We have fun together we don't get jealous we are both kind of flirts but respect each other as well. The Hubs does not like to dance much. He will if I ask nicely or if he is drunk enough or in the right mood. But we have a few friends who do like to dance and will dance with me. I always ask the Hubs before I head out on the dance floor with another man. He usually looks at me funny and says "why are you asking me?" For me it is because I respect you and want to put it all out there so you know what I am doing and there are no surprises.

It's fun times like this that make our relationship so fun and our lives happy. Fun is a big reason to be happy. Spending time with your spouse or partner is a good way to build connection. You do not have to be attached at the hip! That is what confuses a lot of people sometimes though but it shouldn't. People need to be secure in their relationship. I think that is one reason we are so happy and have so much fun. I love the nights when we meet up after being in two different conversations and say..."fancy meeting you here!" Then we snag a kiss and maybe cop a feel and then go back to our respective conversations or activities. I like dancing and girl talk, he plays cards or outside games and/or BBQing with the boys. We are the perfect couple because we are secure with each other and love to spend time together with our family and friends and also have great time alone together too!

I too want to write about the crazy shit. I have some crazy stories (there are way more crazy rumors floating around out there about me so don't get any ideas, can you hear the Katy Perry music too) but I have to figure out how to fit them into the context of a blog and get the details right, you as the reader need it to make sense and that may be hard because many of my stories are like listening to a group of giggly drunk girls explain what their giggly inside joke just was about...let's see if I can actually write about that stuff and make sense..might be fun... But we have to remember I am not a writer but I have 342 days left this year to work on it! And Don't judge you know you have these stories too! Go have fun with you lover this weekend! I plan to!

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22 Days and Counting

How are your 2015 goals doing? Did you really set out goals for 2015? It is the third week in January, Thursday. We are only 3 weeks into this year that is about 5.7% into 2015. It seems like it has been forever since New Years Day. So much has happened. The Oregon Ducks won the Rose Bowl and a spot in the National Championship and then lost that game. The Seahawks played in and won two play off games including a second in a row NFC Championship Game. The Boy has wrestled in 4 matches won 8 and lost 3 bouts, 4 or 5 of them he has pinned for the win. The girl has finished her competition solo and her costume has arrived it is gorgeous and she is more gorgeous dancing in it. I have had my first ever official migraine (sucked) and I have gone most of these 22 days of January without alcohol and carbs and sugar (I got two waiver days for Playoff games and a few quick bites that no one will ever know). The Hubs starts his apprentice class that he teaches next week and has an instructor meeting tonight. The Hubs and I had a great start and then had our first fight last weekend but are still in a better spot than ever. Our kids have spent a weekend with Grandma Great and one with Gram and Gramps. We have had the Boy's birthday party and sent kids home because he was puking so we will do it again this weekend. The Girl has had the disappointment of stupid 10 year old girls who can only be friends with once person at a time and had her sleepover with her bestie canceled due to her brother being sick. Point is 2015 is in full swing and the "New Year" feeling has faded into the normalness of real life. Right?

So how are we doing? Sex Love and Washing Clothes was, no IS my goal. The Hubs and I have kept up on our part of the sex everyday! I have not exactly kept up the washing clothes everyday, but I have not given up. I love everyday with my whole heart. Even when it doesn't seem like it I am making decisions out of love, love for my family, my cause, school, sport, kids, teachers, husband family etc...even if in reluctance I make every decision for the love of something! It happens about this time maybe sooner, every year the "New Year" feeling fades. The excitement of that "change feeling" wears off, the desire for change fades. Our motivation fades sometimes moment after we see a great inspiring presentation. In the moment of that presentation we were captured with hope and inspiration! Then reality sets in we have to be home to take the kids to practice and make dinner in 20 minutes and you forgot to take out the chicken from the freezer....So we end up falling back into our rut that we intended to get out. That feeling of being in a rut is what gave us the original desire for change, and there we go right back into it!

Yes that is what happens when life gets in the way! Ruts are hard to get out of they are easy to just follow along and get pulled wherever they lead. There have been days this year (in only 22 days) that I have wanted to say "Fuck It" I am throwing in the towel everyday for a whole year is too long! Obviously I kind of have done that with the whole cleaning thing but I have refocused and continue to try to make new strides everyday. But the first word in this blog is not cleaning for a reason. It is sex, and that department we have stayed to the course everyday! I really do love sex with the Hubs and he does too, so that makes it much easier. So it really is not hard, in theory, to keep doing it because obviously sex is fun, but we all know that we want to just go to sleep sometimes especially when tired or sick or have a rib injury (yes, I have an NFC Championship game war wound and just laying down hurts). I have stuck it out because I committed and I want to see what it does if I actually keep a resolution? (Should I use that word?) Has that ever happened? That anyone has kept a resolution?! EVER?! I have 22 days and counting!

Piggy backing on yesterdays post stop letting life get in the way and steal your passion! Stop being a nay sayer and giving in! You can keep the passion and inspiration! You can do it AND get the family fed dinner and get the kids to practice on time! It just takes determination, dedication and desire (and a maybe little planning depending on your goal)! Do you really have desire for change in your life? Routine and ruts are easy, even if you don't like them. If you have been doing it that way for a while you have to go through the change and sometimes it causes what I refer to as growing pains. I have quit so many diets, workout programs and organization projects and even jobs because of said growing pains. But, this year in 2015 I plan to push through! It's kind of like going through hell to get to something better. There is a country song that says "if you're going through hell keep on going. You might get out before the devil even knows your there". So, keep going until you create a new routine that includes the positive changes, it may even be easy one day! At the end of 2014 you set out to accomplish something in 2015 you said that you would do it on New Years Eve! You were inspired by stories of accomplishments of 2014 and probably stories of failures in 2014 so let's do 2015 better. Maybe you were inspired by the Champagne or the Ducks or Ohio States win on New Years Day. Regardless something inspired you hold onto that inspiration don't ever let it go!

Those Chinese lanterns we sent off on New Years Eve, went up and kept going, none of them turned to you and said that is too hard or too much! We had dreams and plans and desire and maybe unrealistic expectations but let's make those reality with the work we put in this WHOLE year!!!! Never give up on those dreams! 2015 is 12 months, 52 weeks, 365 days. It has only been 22 days, you still have time you can still get on track don't give up!

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Do you ever get that feeling....

Do you ever get that feeling that you know you need to get up and get motivated but just can't. That feeling that you could be doing things better or different but just can't muster the energy to do so. And then that feeling that you are so angry with yourself for letting yourself down. When you do that to your self, I call it self sabotage. You are not letting your mom, your kids or your husband down or the friend who is never there for you anyway, you are letting yourself down. (Who is always there) Why can't we get motivated to take care of ourselves the way we take care of others. If someone is counting on us to babysit or to teach a class or to make the neighbor a healthy dinner after a rough loss in the family, we pull out all the stops, we even get out good dishes out that have to be hand washed. But when it's time for us to eat alone we grab chips or leftovers from the other night that hopefully have not grown hair or bacteria that will get us sick. Don't worry we will microwave it and that will kill all the germs right? Why would we not do the best for ourselves?

We know that we feel better when we get up and workout so why do we get up eat donuts and sugar laden coffee and then complain that we feel shitty? It's fucking bull shit people. Sorry for the harsh language but come on! You know I am talking about you! We sit on the couch and complain that we are not seeing our friends or family enough but we are too cheap or lazy to go visit them! Yeah maybe we are busy and need down time but don't use that as an excuse to blame everyone else and not take care of you! It is our sole responsibility to take care of number 1 (my dad taught me that, or at least tried I did not learn it very well). So why do we allow ourselves to let ourselves go?

When I say let ourselves go I mean more than gaining a few pounds and not wearing makeup or nice clothes. I mean getting to the point that we are not happy! We sit and eat the rest of the chocolate cake instead of cleaning the kitchen or going for a walk. We sit and watch reality TV instead of getting up and getting in the shower to get ourselves presentable for the rest of the world. (I am not saying you have to dress to the nines or even dress to impress) I am referring to those stay home moms who yes do a lot and we are allowed and have the freedom to sit on the couch and relax when we feel overwhelmed but we don't have to look it. And we don't have to  and no one is looking because really we do most of our "work" when everyone is home, running to practices, making and cleaning up dinner bed time routines etc. And if you are like me you like to hang with the family especially that time that we get next to my amazing husband cuddling on the couch.

You know that feeling you get when you want to cry but you don't know why? Yeah, me too. But you know what in reality, it is not that we don't know why. At least for me I now why I want to cry I just don't want to admit it. A lot of the time it is me I have let myself down.

Here are a few suggestions, in no particular order, to snapping yourself out of this. Start today, start slow or dive in head first who cares just make progress, and no crying on the couch eating chocolate cake is not progress (all though it fills the void you will only be crying about it later too):

1. Get a massage, or meditate take time to refocus your brain
2. Grind it out (just do it clean the house or get in your 4 miler! I know easier said than done)
3. Give yourself time limits on certain distracting activities. If you know you love to sew but need to cook dinner give yourself a timer so that you can enjoy your sewing but be done with ample time to make dinner
4. HAVE A PLAN (my struggle I have the big bubble thoughts in my head that sound great but don't plan it out so it ends up just bubble thougths in my head)
5. Delegate! Give you kids and husband jobs. Preassigned or just as needed. (if the husband is down with that. If he is not okay with that don't give him jobs if he is not you don't want your kids to see him not doing his "job" and use that as an excuse sometimes the working full time thing is enough for the husband to do, and sometimes you need help. If you ask I bet he will be more than willing to help but this sometimes can be a touchy subject so proceed with caution and really be respectful, you don't want to be the mommy wife, but if the kids are protesting start taking away privileges, one privilege is they get to live in this house for free not that you can take that away but remind them of it!!!!)
6. Last but not least....get an attitude adjustment! Yes "That" kind of attitude adjustment. If needed get Grandma, farm them off to a friend, or hire an overnight nanny and go to a hotel. Or use a lock on your door and have that kind of crazy relaxing passionate love making sex that you lay back and go..."WOW"
7. Or when all else fails out a smile on your face and as Dori says "Just Keep Swimming"

So time to strap up the big girl bra and get cracking. I am putting on my Young Living En-R-Gee Essential Oil (motivation in a bottle) and Brain Power (focus in a bottle) and getting to work! No more whining and feeling sorry for me and no more letting myself down! We need to treat ourselves the way we treat everyone else. We are not lazy when it comes to work (if you work out of the home or when you did) we don't go lazy when it comes to kids or helping friends or husband now let's stop going lazy when it comes to ourselves. So get a shower put on clothes and maybe even cute shoes (we don't wear shows in the house) I will be proud of my work today and I will take into consideration the state of myself and honor me! I will Love me and always do my best and give myself the benefit of the doubt! I am going to do me today. Go do you today! Take care of you! My business cards used to say "take the time to take care of you!" It's time to once again recommit to that!

I could really use a good attitude Adjustment! (Hint hint to you Hubs, wink wink) But writing this and coming back to read it is helping me get motivated, I hope it helps you too! Have a great day, you deserve it and deserve to be loved by you, not just by your kids and husband. Those who created you (your parents) and those you created life with (spouse) and those you gave life to (your kids) deserve to have a teammate in you and not be carrying you through life without your help. Love yourself the way they love you and the way you love them!

That is your challenge today on this hump day: Love you and show your family that you do! Please share with me what you are doing to take care of you today!

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Smile, The Next Best Thing To Do With Your Lips

Happy Tuesday that feels like a Monday! What a crazy weekend. Between the Seahawks winning back to back NFC Championships, the kids and The Hubs having Monday off and me kind of taking the weekend off...I am overwhelmed and spent! I need a weekend from my weekend!

I have like negative 20 minutes left to get a days worth of stuff done so this blog will be short and sweet.  I have been slacking on the "washing clothes" part of my life. (I am writing this as the sink fills to wash dishes that include those left from the Boy's sleepover Friday night). So I am making that a priority today! I am going to refocus and recommit to washing clothes and cleaning house everyday, no more off days or leaving dishes in the sink overnight! The "Love" part is fine. I love my life, Love my Seahawks (Superbowl!!! Whoo Hooo!!!!!!!) And love my kids, getting ready for Sleepover round two this weekend to finish what they started last Friday! And the Hubs and I are set for a date night at Lowe's to pick out cabinets to go in the newly organized Laundry Room. The "sex" part is fine, we had a bit of a hitch (not that we didn't follow through we just had our first real fight (over pretty much nothing) of the year and well we (I) were in a cuddly mood not a two a day mood when we went to bed last night, (good thing for morning sex yesterday and husband who is great at cuddling).

In the midst of my dull-drums today, I sent a "pick me up" photo to the Hubs. Sometimes the thought of him getting my "pick me up photos" (if you don't know those are the kind you can't show your boss or anyone else) makes me giggle and smile a bit, picks me up too. I wonder who is with him?Does he blush or tell his work partners what was in that text message from the Wife? I feel like it was a pick me up for me more than him, sometimes. Him getting my topless photo, as much as I know he likes getting my fun photos at work, picks me up too especially when it is a day where I am getting in the tanning bed because I am feeling overwhelmed and exhausted and I am needing a pick me up, almost as much as it does him. I know it makes him smile, because he tells me sometimes with a fun text back and sometimes when we are sitting on the couch out of the blue just so I know he likes it. I think he knows if I know that he likes it I will do it more. Which, nothing could be more true!

So today folks tell your mate what you like.  What picks you up for the day. Can they help you out maybe when you get in a mood tell your spouse you need a pick me up and they can send your favorite quote or a topless photo or a cute animal pic what ever makes you smile. If you mate knows then they are armed the ability to be there even in the virtual world to make you smile! Because we all know the smiling is the second best thing to do with your lips!

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Never Ever Give Up

Oh. My. Word. The Seahawks win in a comeback! (I know I have been talking a lot about football, it is a big deal!) They were down the whole game but never gave up and in the end with 4 minutes left when the Packers were resting on their lead (mailing it in) the Seahawks were still working at it and scored for the win!

Message of this is NEVER GIVE UP! Never ever give up! No matter how far down you are, how bad the chances look or how hard it will be, never give up! Football gives us a lot of metaphors and a lot of life lessons! The boy's football team tried to do this in their championship game. They were down by 20 and they came back in the last 4 minutes to lose 24-30. It was a sad loss but a day to be proud of with the comeback that they made. They never gave up, but came up short but had something to be proud about and to build on for the next year.

Jermaine Kearse score the winning touchdown. He had been targeted 6 times that ended in drops and/or interceptions. He had a rough day, he did not hang his head he went out there and focused and worked hard to catch that last pass in the End zone in overtime, while being interfered with at that! He only caught one pass and he caught the one that really mattered and won the game! What a comeback.

In our daily lives we have many opportunities to either decide to mail it in, give up or refocus and kick ass and make a difference. In the NFC Championship the Seahawks never gave up. There were fans who had given up on them and left early. (Bandwagoners, we call them) We stayed and believed. I always believe, I always stay. In everything. in my marriage and in my life there have been many times no one would have faulted me for walking away, leaving early, or giving up but I have decided I would rather work through it and get the win at the end of the day! Life is not always easy especially if you are married with a family where everyone is going in different directions. I was given advice from a friend of mine who had recently gone through a divorce. He said never give up it is always worth it! I am always down for a come back! The celebration is so worth it. 

Never give up, you will never know what you are capable of if you give up! You may come up short like our pee wee team did but you will still be able to say you did your best, you gave everything you had. You can give respect to you opponent when they win against your best efforts, and be proud of your best effort. It is so worth it to not give up! So, never give up! Never ever give up! Believe in yourself you may surprise you and you will be able to celebrate your win. (and I am sure you know how I will suggest you celebrate that win) This whole Sex Love and Washing Clothes thing for me is tough, I will not give up or throw in the towel I will continue everyday, some days I will be down (like not getting my blog in until 6pm but I will not give up!)

Go Hawks

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Savor Each Moment, Be A Champion

Today is the NFC Championship game and my beloved Seahawks are hosting the NFC Championship Game for the second year in a row! (Can you see that big smile on my face?) Many analysts are giving our opponent, Green Bay Packers no chance. Well I am more nervous than I was for the Championship Game that my son played in earlier this year (and it was my son playing and my husband coaching and I was pretty nervous). Big question is Why? Nervousness and worry serve no purpose, AT ALL! But I am still nervous. Which is kind of good because I have been nervous every game. The ones I wasn't as nervous at we lost. I don't strap up the pads, or prepare for a game why am I nervous. Maybe that is why. As a fan I have no control over how the game is played what plays are called and how well the players are prepared to and actually execute the play on the field. I have no control, except to intimidate the other team with our loud crowd noise us 12s are known for. If I had control I could watch more film, spend more time in the gym or do something to affect how well I will play. The only thing I can do is scream my heart out and hope it makes and impact on the game going on down on the field! But since I can't, I sit here and worry about nothing, no one will die if I don't or if the Seahawks lose. It will not affect my income or ability to provide for my family. It will affect the mood of the Hubs though and the kids might be a little sad (The Boy especially) but we will go on just as we have before. But I know what it felt like last year being at the game watching Richard Sherman bat the ball out away from Michael Crabtree and cement the Seahawks spot in the 48th Superbowl! It was surreal, amazing, joyfull and I want to feel that again, badly!

The things I am worried about: I am worried we will miss the ferry in the morning (confession I am writing this Saturday night before I go to bed so I can be 100% in the moment even on the ferry ride). I am worried we might miss kick off (it's an hour earlier than normal games) if we leave too late from the pregame spot. I am worried I might forget something so I have already laid out what I will wear, showered and all the things I need to take including my jewelry and glasses are sitting next to the bag I will carry with me, that also already has my wallet in it. I am not usually this prepared but that is how I can know we will get out of here with everything I will need. OMG I need to RELAX and enjoy the anticipation of this moment!

The lesson here today folks is to be in the moment, I am so worried about this game I have had little time to be excited and happy that we are even in this game! I, as well as many other 12s some more than me, want so badly for our team be in the Superbowl that we are forgetting how great it is to be in this NFC Championship game! I, sadly, do this sometimes with the family and with my husband. I want so badly to not miss something that I worry away the moments that we do have. Instead of savoring a moment we wish it would last forever and once it's gone all we have left is that feeling that we didn't savor it because we were too worried we were never going to experience it again. When I got married before I walked down the isle I said "wait, I want to anticipate more" what I meant really is I wanted to savor that moment! We all should savor each moment, especially the special moments, more often. Yes, we want the things that feel good to happen more and the things that make us sad to happen less but worrying one way or another just steals the moment away. We don't want to live our lives on the skip or fast forward button and that is what worry does to you.

Which is why I wrote this blog post now at almost midnight (between Saturday and Sunday) Championship Sunday so that I can savor the championship. I have already packed my stuff, had good luck sex (a must every week), made sure my lucky 12th Man hat my MIL made for me was in my bag...all I can do is savor the moment! I will scream loud, I will give respect for my team and be 100% in it tomorrow. Hopefully I will be able to rep the team and do the same in a few weeks at the Superbowl too. I am going to take the next 12+ hours savoring the fact that my team has a chance to play for a spot to go back to back in the Superbowl. 

So on this Championship Sunday, even if you are not a fan, you do the same. Be a Champion by going 1-0 today in everything you try to do even if you are not a fan of The Seahawks. Use the Seahawks 1-0 mantra to get you through. When you have the 1-0 mindset you don't get a second chance so you prepare like there is not a next week and you do everything as good, no better than you can! In order to do that you have to be in the moment and present at every moment. Be A champion and win each moment of everyday!  And use your Seahawks voice!

Be a Champion, Go 1-0 everyday

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Be the Kind of Friend You Want to Have

It's Saturday, I am waking up on the couch. Not the way I expect this morning to go. The Boy got sick yesterday at his birthday party! They had played video games, hopped in the hot tub (as they said) ate a snack and as I was making dinner the boy ran through the kitchen to the bathroom to throw up. They had been playing video games with The Hubs, after he puked he went back out to the family room where they were playing and continued. I thought maybe an allergy or from excitement, he had no fever but then threw up again (and twice more before his friends actually left) and I decided we had to call the parents and have them pick up their boys. The Boy was not even in the mood to party he didn't even want to open presents, poor kid. . We cut the cake and let the other kids have some cake and opened presents and they left. I think he puked 10 or more times by midnight. 

The Girl had a sleepover planned with her Best friend and we had to cancel. The two girls had talked about having their first sleepover the night of the Boys party (I usually let opposite kid invite one friend over during the other siblings birthday to give them something to do to not bother the other's party). She was so disappointed, I think more than The Boy. Both of my kids are pretty good at going with the flow so The Girls reaction caught me off guard. Her and her Best friend haven't had a chance to have a sleepover yet, they decided to miss another girls birthday party for the chance to spend the night alone. So when it was canceled she was stuck by herself. There was still the party both girls could have gone to but The Girl was so upset she hadn't decided if she wanted to go until about 9pm. I told her that it was probably too late and wasn't very nice to plan not to go to a party to spend time with someone else and then when it doesn't work out decide to go all of a sudden. Maybe her other friend wouldn't mind though...

Things don't always go as planned. Having a back up plan is fine but I feel bad when it is  a person who is the back up plan. I guess it would not have been bad to let the Girl go to her friends party but I just felt that wasn't the best way to be friends. If you make other plans that don't work out how does that other person feel being the "back up friend" maybe she would have just been thankful to have seen The  Girl anyway... Everyone has plans that fall through. Sometimes you just have to deal with it and others it is fine to fall back on the back up plan. I guess it would have been fine for the girl to have gone as long as it is not the only time she spends with that friend. 

In life you have to roll with the punches. Sometimes you just have to deal with disappointment you don't always get the opportunity of a back up plan. It sucks to be the friend that everyone comes to hang out with when no one else is available, but at least you get to see the friends. I always leave invitations open. If you already have other plans when I invite I don't take it personal but I always leave the door open, if things change give me call you are more than welcome to join. But if we had plans and then something else came up and you bail on me because something more exciting comes up I may feel like I am a back up friend but be honest! It is pretty chickenshit (couldn't think of a better word) to say "oh I don't have a babysitter" and then see photos of them hanging out with someone else on Facebook or hear it from another friend. Please just be honest no reason to lie I won't take it personally and niether should you. Or the worst is when you tell Friend B that you already have plans (with Friend A) and can't go to their party and then friend A,"doesn't have a sitter" and bails on you for the Friend B party. If Friend A would have been honest all of you proabably could have spent the time together! Keep your word and be honest, that is what I am trying to teach my kids. 

I am the type of person, we are the type of household where friends are always welcome. I don't really get upset being the back up friend, I don't take it personal I am just thankful to have friends to spend time with at my house or your house or Friend B's house regardless of the original plans, usually, there are those instances I want to do what I want to do then I am on my own and we'll see you next time. It kind of goes back to the whole don't take things personal. But if I am the one you are calling when everyone else is busy but you don't keep or ever make plans with me don't expect me to be waiting for you all the time and then get mad when I am not. 

Friends are important and are always welcome! Friends are the family you choose! Just know, there is a limit to what one person can do and be there for you. There is a quote that goes something like, "don't cross oceans for someone who won't cross the street for you" Which is a good lesson to learn. With that said, however, you cannot keep score or expect you friends to be there for you as much as you are for them if you wait for them to even out the give and take you may will be disappointed. You should be the type of friend you want them to be and in the end it will may (or may not work out) but you can look into the mirror and say I am a good friend. Even when they are not there for you. One day you will need a friend and the one who is there may surprise you. Maybe you haven't always been there for them and they will out of no where step up and help you out and you will be surprised and you will probably feel bad that you haven't' been there for them but just know in the end the score doesn't matter. People and friends matter. Be the type of friend you want and you will have many friends to love and who love you.

Be the best type of friend to your spouse, don't make them the back up friend! Spend time just the two of you going out but also spend time with other friends and couples. If you are best friends with your spouse you will never feel lonely and when those "back up friends" bail on you it won't be so bad! It will give you more alone time and you know what that means with your spouse...bow chick a bow wow!

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Let You Inner Sherman Out. Be Bold Don't be Mediocre

Happy Blue Friday folks!!! It is Championship Weekend!!! Go Seahawks. Last year there was a bit of a controversy after the game when Richard Sherman called out Micheal Crabtree, referring to him as mediocre. Richard Sherman kind of sounded arrogant and disrespectful in his banter. However everything he said was true, and knowing Richard Sherman it was somewhat calculated. Later in the week he did not make an apology for calling him mediocre, he stuck to his word, he may have scared Erin Andrews in his rant and he did, however, apologized for that. He had something to say and he said it. The only apology was about the delivery no back pedaling or changing the meaning of what he said. I like that about him. He always puts 100% into everything he does, including his after the game on field interviews. He is bold and not afraid to say how he feels. The Hubs is like that. 

I am more reserved and keep my mouth shut more often than not I think some great thoughts but if I think it might offend someone I may not say it out loud, at least until later. I tend to be more politically correct, I wouldn't want to offend anyone. However, with this blog I do share a lot more than many of my outspoken friends do, but that is while hiding behind a computer screen. I am not afraid to put it out there. And by "it" I mean whatever might be on my mind and what I am thinking or feeling. I am getting more bold as the year continues but a lot of the time I will delete my comment on post that might be misinterpreted or if it is a joke that I think someone won't understand. In this blog I get the chance to say what I am thinking. I am more bold when typing (like most people are) but I am still me. Is the real Richard Sherman the mellow very well spoken guy we see in a press conference or the arrogant bully (as some have called him) that we see on the field on game day? Is there two Richard Shermans? Does that change our opinion of him? Am I the Ruby who thinks one thing and never says it out loud? Or the one who says almost everything on her mind while writing my blog? Does it matter? I say no.

Do we think the fact that most of us have a work personality, home personality, game personality, and around other parents personality and even the bedroom personality make us hypocritical? It is just a fact and in some jobs and situations a necessity. I don't just that fact makes us hypocritical. As long as you at the core really don't change. If we offend our friend by something we say or a word we use when we are being honest, I believe the problem lies with the friend. If it is how we deliver it, I believe, the problem in this case may lie with the person being disrespectful in their tone or delivery. Say what you feel and be honest but be respectful, mindful and sensitive especially when it is a sensitive topic that hits close to home. Most of us need to learn how to stop taking things so personally. I have a lot of crazy colors on the walls in my house. Some people are not afraid to tell me it is not their choice of color. Some are more tactful or respectful in saying it others use words that could be kind of a personal attack. However it is their opinion not mine. If I got offended every time someone didn't like my colors I would have no friends left! It does not mean they don't like me or my house, they just don't like my choice of color, and they don't have to, it's my choice. I wish I could speak my mind more freely and not offend people or I wish I didn't care but I do. I am going to be working on that! You, readers work on not being offended, deal?

Let's be who we are! You know the saying men want a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. (I don't know if I qualify anymore as a lady in the streets since I put it out on the internet! Who Cares! Yes I am!!) We do need to censor in some settings but we don't need to change what you like and who you are! I may not go down the street in Green Bay chanting 12th Man chants (which I would do in Seattle on Game Day) but that doesn't mean I won't wear my Seahawks jersey or start chanting Go Pack Go either. In the bedroom let's not be afraid to get a little risque with our mate! I'll say it again, Men like the lady in streets freak in the bed type women and most women like the Christian Gray type as well. Let those reservations out and don't be afraid to share those moments with your love. Don't just wait 'till his birthday! You can start with just a little dirty talk and then go from there. If he is asking for it and you are lost or have no idea where to start ask him to demonstrate what he means when he asks for dirty talk. (Remember no one will hear you and your preschool moms will not judge you for what they can't hear!) Have fun with it. Let you inner game day Richard Sherman out! He always puts his all on the field! Your field is your domain, your bedroom, kitchen, laundry, put your all into it be it cleaning the kitchen, folding clothes or knocking boots. Go for the score and definitely don't be mediocre! 

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Don't Judge, Be Happy

It is day 15!!!  Two solid weeks I have been in 2015 had sex with my husband everyday and I have cleaned some part of my house and/or did laundry and I have stuck to my diet plan and I have written in the blog omitted drinking so far this year! EVERYDAY because I wanted to. We are closer and happier than we were on Christmas day! I have changed a lot, my husband has changed a lot, and our relationship has changed. Not only because of Sex Love and Washing Clothes, well maybe, but there is a shift that has happened in the last few weeks, months or days... We have been working on our relationship with a therapist but there was always something that would creep up and cause conflict between us. We have always had great sex! We sometimes would argue about sex. It would be about our poor communication around sex. The Hubs was my first, I never learned how to tell someone what I wanted or liked sexually. I think there is a part of me that always kind of expect him to just know. Well, guess what, they don't just know. We wives have to tell our husbands what we want. I think in a way he doesn't or didn't really know how to tell me what he wanted, either. And to be honest I was never really easy to talk to about what he wanted, but now I am asking him everyday what do you think how should we? And he is saying it too! And I am listening and I am excited to talk about it everyday too!

Let me be clear, there is no part of me that is "obliging" my husband's wants or desires for sex. (Not that I think that is a bad thing, but it seems to imply that I don't have freedom to say no what I do or do not want to do, so it has a negative connotation). I love having sex with my husband. I have (as most women do) always wanted him to be romantic around the subject and he (as most men do) have always wanted me to be more...how do I say it...is it slutty? no, more forward and open (that's more PC). Now, we have both! And there is no negative affect on me for it so those of you judging the situation as me having to oblige my husband, you are wrong.  I will say it again, I love my husband and having sex with him. I love what having sex with him everyday is doing for him. I love what having sex with him everyday is doing for me. I love what is doing for our communication and what it is doing for our happiness and what it is doing for our conflict (or lack there of). Sex is more than just a physical activity, which is why you share it with your spouse. Sex is a vessel that the life blood of your marriage flows through. When shared with your spouse, it is connection, communication, and love. 

My husband and I used to have at least one big blow out fight every week and sometimes more than that. It is January 15 and we have not had a big blow out fight since before Christmas Day! We have had a few disagreements but no blow outs! I could sit and over analyze why things are going well, maybe I should, but you know what? I don't care!! I am going to do what I have been doing and enjoy the happy times! As a friend of mine used to say to me "don't question it just enjoy it! Fuck it, who cares, be happy and live your life!" I do think it is valuable to understand what makes things work as much as what doesn't. However in the big picture when things are going good if you spend too much time analyzing then you may miss the moment. 

I have no idea if it's because of Sex Love and Washing Clothes or not. Maybe we have just magically matured or something. Maybe both. We have been seeing a therapist for a few years he is intrigued by this too and we will continue to see him. We will continue how things are going because it is working, and it is awesome. It is not always easy but at the end of the day, how can it be bad? There are people who are judgmental that have to find something wrong in everyone else and there is a lot you can target about me because I am writing and putting it out there everyday, but as much as I do listen and feel judged, it just makes me more motivated to prove my point and continue doing what I do. I only hope to help inspire those who want to be inspired and improve their lives from with my blogging about Sex, Love and Washing Clothes. From sex and washing clothes to loving themselves and their families more! I am doing just that. Everyday I am ending my day with connection and the Big "O" with my husband. And there is nothing a mom or wife could ask for that would be a better way to end the day! Now go get you some and enjoy, live your life full and love with your whole being! Be you, I will be me and we will get happier everyday one orgasm at at time :)

Now go get yours folks!

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